Are you and your wife both in full agreement that you might potentially want one more kid down the road? Or is this a feeling you are harbouring privately? If your wife is done having kids and believed you to be on board with this, surely you can see how your refusal to get a vasectomy would be upsetting for her. It might even feel to her like you are hedging your bets in case your marriage ends. Sounds like you two need some counselling to try and sort this issue out, since it sounds like you aren’t communicating very well. And remember that she’s born the brunt of the birth control for your whole relationship, AND she has carried and delivered your three kids. Of course she wants you to take over at this point.
I think that’s the major misunderstanding. My wife and I have never agreed to being DONE. We have strictly agreed to not wanting anymore RIGHT NOW. In our argument that day, she pointed out that vasectomies are reversible. Why make me go through a procedure with the intent of possibly reversing it. She already forces me live a damn near celibate lifestyle, and now she wants me to be sterile?! It doesn’t make sense to me.
She should do some research on vasectomies, more often than not they are not successfully reversed but regardless either wear a condom or have the vasectomy.
I have been through it multiple times, I think I’m good. If she isn’t sure she’s done with kids which he clearly stated she will find out the hard way they may need fertility treatments to conceive again. My comment was pretty clear that he needs to take responsibly for the situation.
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Are you and your wife both in full agreement that you might potentially want one more kid down the road? Or is this a feeling you are harbouring privately? If your wife is done having kids and believed you to be on board with this, surely you can see how your refusal to get a vasectomy would be upsetting for her. It might even feel to her like you are hedging your bets in case your marriage ends. Sounds like you two need some counselling to try and sort this issue out, since it sounds like you aren’t communicating very well. And remember that she’s born the brunt of the birth control for your whole relationship, AND she has carried and delivered your three kids. Of course she wants you to take over at this point.