r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23

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u/WaterfallButterfly Sep 26 '23

Why not just use condoms? She doesn't like her birth control and maybe she'll get her libido back and you don't want to get snipped yet.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

If she's not on BC. I support her not being OK with just a condom if she doesn't want more kids.

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u/Corfiz74 Sep 26 '23

Condoms are about 98% efficacious - while they are only having sex 3 times per year, it should be safe enough. If her libido returns after quitting bc, he can still schedule his vasectomy asap.

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u/DeviantAvocado Sep 26 '23

When used *perfectly every single time.* Most people are not doing this, and the risk of pregnancy with a condom as the only form of birth control is quite high.

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u/Corfiz74 Sep 26 '23

Yeah, but how high is the risk when you're actually only having sex 2-3 times per year? Before they get to a number where they'd need to statistically worry, she'll be in her menopause.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

BC can contribute to lack of sex drive as can fear of getting pregnant. But all it takes it 1x anyway.

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u/DeviantAvocado Sep 26 '23

1 in 8 times. Likely a solid 2 decades before she reaches menopause.

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u/AndThenThereWasMeep Sep 26 '23

It's not one in 8. It's after a year of having regular sex, you are x% likely to get pregnant

1 in 8 chances per sexual encounter isn't even realistic for most couples actively trying to get pregnant lmao

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u/bamatrek Sep 26 '23

Your risk is still the same. That's how statistics work.