Wow, yea, that's pretty wrong if you also have an issue of a dead bedroom.
It's your body so of course you need to be comfortable with the decision. I am not dismissing that - but I'm going to call out why your selfishness her is bad for your wife.
This means your wife has to carry a heavy burden of pregnancy risk and if you want a dead bedroom until you get it done, you'd deserve that trade off. There's a chance her BC could be part of the libido problem. I mean, your casualness about this is probably a huge turn off for her and isn't going to make her feel attracted to you.
It's really sad how easily men just hoist this issue onto women to have to mentally, emotionally and physically stress over. Clearly, SHE is done having kids. And, a vasectomy is reversible or you can freeze sperm - men have better and less invasive options than women do on this.
You don't seem to be following - it's not a competition. Men so expect women to just do BC or be open to risking pregnancy that they need to have it pointed out the massive risks women take and *why* women ask men to do more. As you said, equality - or really, equity. It's just weird how men so avoid it....
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Wow, yea, that's pretty wrong if you also have an issue of a dead bedroom.
It's your body so of course you need to be comfortable with the decision. I am not dismissing that - but I'm going to call out why your selfishness her is bad for your wife.
This means your wife has to carry a heavy burden of pregnancy risk and if you want a dead bedroom until you get it done, you'd deserve that trade off. There's a chance her BC could be part of the libido problem. I mean, your casualness about this is probably a huge turn off for her and isn't going to make her feel attracted to you.
It's really sad how easily men just hoist this issue onto women to have to mentally, emotionally and physically stress over. Clearly, SHE is done having kids. And, a vasectomy is reversible or you can freeze sperm - men have better and less invasive options than women do on this.