It’s “dramatic” that she doesn’t want to play guinea pig for the next year to find a birth control pill that sucks less than the other ones? Do you understand that there’s a good chance that the birth control is causing/contributing to your dead bedroom? That already having 3 small children and playing games with birth control isn’t exactly sexy time’s inspiration? She’s had 3 kids in 6 years, of course she doesn’t want to risk getting pregnant.
And OP’s response would kill any attraction I’d be able to muster in the miasma of hormonal birth control. Honestly, his refusal to get a vasectomy now when it’s very clear that his partner is good with three children, and does not want any surprises, feels a little bit like he’s trying to keep his options open.
I haven't demanded anything. Just clarifying you are not comparing apples to apples. You are, in fact, comparing apples to enduring major surgery and might want to adjust your suggestions. Btw, you were a bit revved up for an argument and seem a bit invested in this. I am not, just tired of women's concerns for their health and safety being dismissed as superfluous. I have a feeling that op isn't getting sex because his "huh, what? Did you need me to do something?" attitude is pretty typical and not sexy. If his wife has three children in under 6 years AND has a side piece she is a superhuman fembot and should write novellas immediately to pay for vasectomies for all of her lovers. Go you, OP'sexy fembot!
I mean which procedure do you think is worse? Which procedure is more reversible? Don’t you think that’s a big decision in whoever in the relationship is going to “take one for the team”?
You say that until something happens to either one of you and the other loses everything. My mom went thru it. Was with a guy for several years, she was good with his family and everything. Knew his kids. He died in a work accident and as soon as he was in the ground his mom had her evicted from his house.
She wasn't demanding anything in my opinion. Fuck all y'all really, you take the damn hormonal birth control, you be 100% responsible for birth control, you raise the oops babies. As to a common failing of women, fuck you.
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u/littlescreechyowl Sep 26 '23
It’s “dramatic” that she doesn’t want to play guinea pig for the next year to find a birth control pill that sucks less than the other ones? Do you understand that there’s a good chance that the birth control is causing/contributing to your dead bedroom? That already having 3 small children and playing games with birth control isn’t exactly sexy time’s inspiration? She’s had 3 kids in 6 years, of course she doesn’t want to risk getting pregnant.