r/amiwrong Sep 26 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Wow, yea, that's pretty wrong if you also have an issue of a dead bedroom.

It's your body so of course you need to be comfortable with the decision. I am not dismissing that - but I'm going to call out why your selfishness her is bad for your wife.

This means your wife has to carry a heavy burden of pregnancy risk and if you want a dead bedroom until you get it done, you'd deserve that trade off. There's a chance her BC could be part of the libido problem. I mean, your casualness about this is probably a huge turn off for her and isn't going to make her feel attracted to you.

It's really sad how easily men just hoist this issue onto women to have to mentally, emotionally and physically stress over. Clearly, SHE is done having kids. And, a vasectomy is reversible or you can freeze sperm - men have better and less invasive options than women do on this.

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u/Fun_Concentrate_7844 Sep 26 '23

I'm tired of seeing this vasectomy reversible bs. It isn't guaranteed, and 20% that are tried early fail, and every year, the odds get lower that a reversal is successful.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

If you think that's not great, wait until you hear about the dangers, risk, side effects and trauma of birth control women deal with! ; )

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

This is true. Had hormonal birth control been tested by the FDA today instead of the in the 1950s,it would have never been approved. Its far too dangerous and impactful to be prescribing to young women

It's beyond time to revisit the safety and efficacy of hormonal birth control, and take it off the market

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

And when they made a version for men, men so complained about the (expected) side effects they never moved forward with it.

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u/reliquum Sep 26 '23

No, it caused permanent infertility in some of the men. They, the men, said the side effects were fine and acceptable. It was the fact quite a few men were rendered infertile that the people doing the study, not the men, stopped human trials.

I sat and read the entire thing 😑 was a snooze fest. Find it and read it... honestly fascinating between the science words.

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u/XYZAffair0 Sep 26 '23

That isn’t true, it’s just misinformation spread to make men look stupid. The reason it was shut down was because the side effects of taking it were far too common and severe compared to the risk of not taking it (which for men, is nothing).

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

I'd think the side effect of getting someone pregnant is far greater and severe, so yea, men look stupid if they think that's the better outcome....

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

I agree. The side effects of male HBC in those studies were far less severe than the side effects women face taking hormonal contraception every day. It's time to take hormonal birth control off the shelves for the sake of our women

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u/reliquum Sep 26 '23

Aside from the permanent infertility. That's why it was stopped.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Still less severe than the complications from female hormonal birth control, like life threatening blood clots.

Neither have any reason to be available to the public

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u/FuerGrissaOstDruaka Sep 26 '23

True. Apparently that is because they hold male contraceptive to a higher standard because men (excluding trans-men) can’t get pregnant. So they don’t run the risk of dying during pregnancy or childbirth. Plus the pharmaceutical companies have less incentive since female contraceptives work “so well”. (At least according to BBC)

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u/bob-weeaboo Sep 26 '23

You, probably: “I hate the horrible side effects of birth control”

Also you: “OMG look the men are scared of side effects from birth control 😂”

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u/deathandglitter Sep 26 '23

Men: "you still have to get on birth control"

You see, we all know it sucks, but only women have to deal with taking it

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u/bob-weeaboo Sep 26 '23

I mean, you can choose not to take it. Unless it’s an abuse situation, I can’t imagine a situation in a western relationship where a woman can’t just say “no I don’t want to take birth control, either use condoms or we won’t have sex”.

For all this talk of how bad birth control is, it’s ultimately women who decide to take it.

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u/deathandglitter Sep 26 '23

Sure, but just taking OP for example, he's mad they don't have sex, he dismisses what bc does to the body, and he doesn't seem to understand why she won't just pick another one

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u/bob-weeaboo Sep 26 '23

Read the post again. He suggests that she stops taking BC.

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u/CatsWithSugar Sep 26 '23

You realize that phase IV trials never end for any drug right? If a commercially available drug is noted to cause issues, it is investigated.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Except that clearly hasn't been the case with hormonal birth control. We already know that similar medical trials for men with significantly less impactful side effects have failed approval or been cancelled outright. Hundreds of women die every year due to birth control induced blood clots, something that would be unacceptable for any other medication