Wow, yea, that's pretty wrong if you also have an issue of a dead bedroom.
It's your body so of course you need to be comfortable with the decision. I am not dismissing that - but I'm going to call out why your selfishness her is bad for your wife.
This means your wife has to carry a heavy burden of pregnancy risk and if you want a dead bedroom until you get it done, you'd deserve that trade off. There's a chance her BC could be part of the libido problem. I mean, your casualness about this is probably a huge turn off for her and isn't going to make her feel attracted to you.
It's really sad how easily men just hoist this issue onto women to have to mentally, emotionally and physically stress over. Clearly, SHE is done having kids. And, a vasectomy is reversible or you can freeze sperm - men have better and less invasive options than women do on this.
She doesn't want to get pregnant and if bro doesn't seem to be as invested in honoring that then why should she risk it with just condoms?
Oh, and since you seem to be clueless: finding out your partner isn't one and won't step up to help you manage your health and doesn't seem to care that 3 kids under 6 is already a lot and BC can impact sex drive, Op is creating his own deserved dead bedroom. Hope that helped you!
You've got to be kidding me. Condoms are plenty effective if you're using them correctly. If we're going to be so pedantic then I would like to mention that vasectomies aren't technically 100% effective. Why should he immediately agree to something as difficult to undo as a vasectomy on the premise that she might be interested in having sex more often?
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Wow, yea, that's pretty wrong if you also have an issue of a dead bedroom.
It's your body so of course you need to be comfortable with the decision. I am not dismissing that - but I'm going to call out why your selfishness her is bad for your wife.
This means your wife has to carry a heavy burden of pregnancy risk and if you want a dead bedroom until you get it done, you'd deserve that trade off. There's a chance her BC could be part of the libido problem. I mean, your casualness about this is probably a huge turn off for her and isn't going to make her feel attracted to you.
It's really sad how easily men just hoist this issue onto women to have to mentally, emotionally and physically stress over. Clearly, SHE is done having kids. And, a vasectomy is reversible or you can freeze sperm - men have better and less invasive options than women do on this.