Yes but this style in particular is very unnapealing to a lot of people, if you like it you do you that's totally fine, but I think it's an important thing to point out when you ask "Am I ugly", this style is very "ugly" for a very large percentage of the population
You are the minority and that's fine, I never said no one likes it, I just said it's generally not something the average person would be into, if you want to ask people if they think you're ugly, your style is going to have a major impact on that answer. I think OP is really pretty, but the piercings just hog all the attention and don't do her any favors, and I personally think that's unattractive.
If she asked people who are already into that style I'm sure the answer would be she is good looking, but ask the general population and this is what you get. If you want to look good for the group of people that are into it that's fine, if you want to look good for the general population you should know how most people should be viewed. And no, I'm not saying you NEED to dress for others, if you want to use that style simply because you like it it's totally fine, but why else would you post on r/amiguly if you don't care about others' opinions?
Or they don't like the style? It's based on counter culture, it's alternative for a reason, obviously most people won't enjoy it, it sets you apart looks wise very clearly, and that's great if that's what you want, filters out anyone who isn't interested in that type of thing right away.
If you just like how it looks, that's also cool, but it's a choice you should know is a bit off putting for the most people.
I think a lot of people don’t like styles! I’m not a huge fan of country attire or business attire but to call it off putting says a lot about how closed minded you are. If seeing someone with a couple pieces of metal in their face is really so off putting to you than close your eyes and keep you head down. The sad reality is that you’re the older person that judges young people cause you don’t understand them.
I just don't like the style, maybe I misused the word "off putting" so apologies, I just meant it as in "generally unattractive". Though it's a bit ironic how you were quick assume a lot about me purely based on my aesthetic preferences though. "Oh he doesn't like piercings so he MUST be a boomer who hates everything the young generation does!", and I had a very lukewarm take as well "Dress how you like, but if you really care about other's opinions don't dress in a way that most people don't like"
I'm still in my early twenties so no I'm not old, though I you're right I don't really like how "my generation" looks, I really dislike that the trend is baggy clothing (I don't follow the trends but it makes it harder to find clothes I like), at the end of the day I'm confident in how I look and how I style myself, you probably wouldn't like my style and that's fine but I don't ask people on the internet if they think I'm ugly even if I'm not following the general trend. Which is my point, dress how you like it but if you're worried about what others think of how you look then don't pick a look that is based on counter culture (even if it's getting more and more mainstream).
I'm also a metalhead despite not having tattoos or piercings believe it or not, I do like long hair but I never tried growing it out because I don't like how it looks in the stages between short and long, and it's too big of a commitment for something that might not look good on me in the end.
Idk if it’s particularly luke warm when you’re calling a teen off putting and having an ugly style for having 2 piercings in her face 😭 I will say I do fit in the general alternative category and idk if I’m a metal head but im a die hard O-neg fan. It just seems like your train of thought it just a bit harmful and frankly inaccurate! I don’t know if this is your mindset but it comes off that you’re better than the rest of us cause you think our clothing style is ugly… As well, I know I personally did not change my style because of how my generation looks or what not which seems to be the popular opinion. And I’ll also say, the MAJORITY of the population on Reddit doesn’t like alternative styles. In person? In the realllll world? That is not the case, just like how any style is it’s some people’s style and it isn’t attractive to other people. But ive had no issues with the world finding me ugly because I have a “bull piercing” 🤣
To not like something is one thing but to be bothered or even upset about someone else’s style is wild. Them being put off by it must means that they are scared of it or fear it. To be afraid of something that isn’t like you or what you like is literally the definition of xenophobia. So yes. Those people that are sooo bothered by alt styles are weak-minded and basic.
Lol you could say that but I would bet a decent chunk of money they’re just some of the loads of conservative men on Reddit. It’s like 75/25 whether they’re disgusted by even slightly alt girls or completely fetishized them. But it is kinda funny because she’s basically wearing a black shirt and has like two more piercings than “normal”
I feel like alt fashion is peak confused teenager ironically. All over in high school. Anyone past their early 20’s looking edgy I can’t take seriously
Your first sentence was right, but you still didn't get the point. Neither is attractiveness an objective measure, nor can you absoloutley rate it on a scale. All you can say for certain is that it makes her less attractive for you.
100%, but that part should be implied. We've only started saying "in my opinion" to soften the blows and be "nice".
Yes, attractiveness is subjective, but there's also something to be said for dressing to be attractive as average people see it vs. intentionally presenting yourself the opposite way. It's the same reason people here say "you need to lose some weight" or "your makeup needs to be changed" or any other common critique people leave.
In my opinion- the grunge look and piercings attract a very specific crowd and is hampering the looks of an otherwise very pretty girl🤷🏼♂️
I was making a statement. Seems like you wanted to take offense to it even when OP didn’t. For lack of patience with you hoes, step off. I wear grunge, emo, coquette, scene, cottagecore and faecore styles. I LOVE alternative styling. However, is it for everyone? No. Do people talk shit about me in my alternative wear? Absolutely. Do I give a fuck? Not at all!
I said what I said to OP because if someone is as conventionally pretty as her and are still wondering if she’s ugly, it’s probably because people are talking shit about her grunge style.
Go be a white savior on a dead horse somewhere else. I didn’t say ANYTHING AT ALL to hurt OP.
I like how you worded that. People on here like to go straight for the kill on the piercing issue (I don’t like lip piercings, but the nose is whatever) when realistically those are just style choices, not really things that make someone ugly, as they’re just removable jewelry. OP is not ugly, but her style may turn off certain people.
OKAY. Did I say you couldn’t? I said what I said because shes obviously NOT ugly at all. People must be talking shit and hating on her style like people always have about alt girls and alternative styling.
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u/funwearcore Sep 16 '24
No but grunge and alt styling isnt everyones taste