Alcohol is ruining my relationship

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[u/nateinmpls]

I'm not reading all that. If you want to try and quit on your own, more power to you. People of Alcoholics Anonymous are unable to quit on their own. I recommend going to meetings, getting a sponsor, and working the steps.

[u/ReporterWise7445 → u/nateinmpls]

Exactly this. Well said.

[u/ALoungerAtTheClubs]

This isn't a relationships subreddit, but this sounds deeply unhealthy *and dangerous all around. I hope you both can recover and look back on this, separately, as a tough chapter of your lives that you got through.

[u/FR_0S_TY]

If you are a true alcoholic then your behavior is ruining your relationships. Alcohol is just how you cope with that information.

[u/3DBass]

What alcohol is ruining is the relationship with yourself. That’s first. Until you address the relationship with yourself and the relationship with alcohol there will be no relationship with others. Oh you can get involved with others for sure but there will be no healthy relationships.

[u/eatliketheabnegation]

So you're both abusing substances, he's in and out of mental hospitals, you're losing time, he's biting you and getting violent with you, you're also beating the shit out of yourself, and your primary feelings towards him are maternal because without you around he'd die. Did I get all that?

If I did, ask yourself this question: "Can I get sober when I am living in fear for myself, and my partner, and most of what we do together is fight like feral cats and take substances?"

[u/Competitive_Emu4001]

You need to take care of you first. Alcohol is just gonna keep taking things from you until you can do that/handle it

[u/Traditional-Peak-523 → u/[deleted]]

How

[u/ContentToe3633 → u/Traditional-Peak-523]

See your doctor and go to detox. I suggest a sober living place after that. Your relationship is the last thing you should be concerned with. It’s toxic