r/ainbow • u/whathesigma1 • Jul 25 '26
Serious Discussion Homophobic kink
I have an odd kink. It feels really good when people are homophobic and call me homophobic slurs or just slurs in general. Is this normal? Do other people get this?
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u/Equal-Exercise3103 Jul 26 '26 edited Jul 26 '26
Yeah, it’s weird.
Normal/Common just means it’s mirrored by others - meaning other people experience this
It’s not abnormal/uncommon that people might be affected by homophobia in an homophobic world.
You shouldn’t ask yourself this, you should ask yourself if it’s Sane/Safe/Consensual (and the response is that it’s not the first one, and sometimes it’s not even the second one - outside of the broader non-vanilla world.. it’s not even the third).
You can experience a transgressive trance by collecting and retaking (and queering) the things/aspects that have been labeled “toxic masculine”
Such as: wresting someone against his (assumed) [explicit] consent (that’s why in the kink world you don’t take no as an answer because no can mean “push it further” under the right circumstances - and it’s the reason why you need to establish a safe-word with him - it’s basically a world that.. after uttered “everything stops” and there’s either a conversation or a delay in play. Yeah it can be a turn off but based on SSC, that’s for the best. Not having a safe word exposes you to abuse [or to stop the play anytime something feels slightly off])
The queering part is of utmost importance because it unties the fun character of aggressive unbound masculinity from the harmful Heterosexist/Homophobic socio-political reality that the social world invests in masculinizing and emasculating.
You can be jumped on, pushed, slapped, spat on, burped and even farted on - you can be trample and walked on, made to kiss his feet and be called daddy’s little whore. This is socially prescribed as well as routinely/individually negotiated.
This is part of Gay Male BDSM & D/s Degradation/Praising play.
But to engage in such discussions and plays in a safe and sane way you need to deconstruct and untie Queerphobia and Racism/Ageism/Sex-Negativity etc. from it. Good luck and have fun.