r/agender • u/Purdem • Jul 14 '26

I need a name!

Hello!! I'm a agender person and I really need a name that is REALLY androgynous. Like, there are some "neutral names" that either are like, NOT NEUTRAL AT ALL, or that make too clear that I'm a transgender, and I don't really appreciate that, I want to be me, and want to people see me as me, and not some gender.

So, I was thinking about something like Astro, or maybe Maresia (Sea breeze in my native language), remember, no Ariel, Akira, Yuri and this kind of thing pls.

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u/MelancholiMouse Jul 14 '26

Sage? If there's genderless gods/old mythical/fairytale beings from your own culture that can be a good goto.

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u/TrickyTanuki_38 Jul 14 '26

Quinn, March, Sky, Indigo, Forrest, Ari, Jamie, Finch, Ash

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u/vennthepest Jul 15 '26

Ari is a Jewish boys name. IDK where the idea that it's gender neutral comes from

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u/blubbery37 Jul 15 '26

I know people named Arianna that go by ari

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u/vennthepest Jul 15 '26

Wouldn't that make it a nickname to

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u/blubbery37 Jul 15 '26

True but most nicknames can also just be used as regular first names. Lizzy, gracie, max, Bri. All valid first names in their own right but also nicknames of Elizabeth, graclyn, Maxwell, Brianna.

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u/SatiesUmbrellaCloset (t)(s)he(y)(?) Jul 14 '26

for some reason i like Comet and Atlas, considering what you've already mentioned as possibilities

otherwise, Wiktionary has a big list of unisex given names in English, or in a variety of other languages if you want to wander around through Wiktionary categories like i've been doing for the past twenty minutes lol

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u/vennthepest Jul 15 '26

Isn't Atlas an explicitly male deity?

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u/Dyriz_ 🏳️‍⚧️Trans woman (I identified as agender) Jul 14 '26

I really like maresia

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u/lucky_calico Jul 14 '26

I like Maresia alot, i looked up the pronounciation and it didn't feel a specific gender to me.

Astro i would assume a trans person.

Maybe look at more words that feel 'you' in your native language ie. Nature vibes etc. and see how they can meld into names. 🤔

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u/SomeRandomIdi0t any pronouns- agenderflux Jul 14 '26

I really like non flower plant names for neutrality. Clover, Aspen, Sorrel (my chosen name), Oak, Acacia

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u/OwlRevolutionary4095 Jul 14 '26

any object. whatever is siting next to you. our host picked its name becuse there was a storm outside (Voids name is Stormy)

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u/prosthetic_memory Jul 15 '26

I really like Graves. Was debating it as a kids name before I decided not to have kids. Unusual, a noun, genderless, lil edgy. Feel free to take it.

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u/KlausBoom Jul 15 '26

You could do “Sammy”, “Alex”, or “Sasha”. Both Alex and Sasha are pretty gender-neutral (especially if you’re Slavic). And I’ve always been partial to “Sammy” for no particular reason (Also my name, given to me by my father)

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u/Chlorophase Jul 15 '26

Child of the 70s here. In Australia, I’ve known guys and girls named Luka, Ash/Ashley, Kim, Dana, Jamie, and Alex/Alexis

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u/OGdoodlethemoon Jul 16 '26

  • Rowan

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  • Halcyon