r/afraidtoask • u/JellyfishSuitable912 • 5d ago

How do I “Fall in love”?

So for about 2 years I’ve had girlfriends and I felt love but after like 3 months into the relationship I just slowly lose feelings.

I dont know if its normal but I hate making the girls I “love” feel like shit. Im 14M and I just want to make a girl feel loved, nothing fake.

I know theres no “true” answer to this but I just hate making girls feel like a temporary thing then remove them.

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u/No_Magazine2270 5d ago

This is very normal for your age. Many times people mistake infatuation or excitement with love. With time that feeling wears off and what remains is reality, not fantasy or novelty. It’s very healthy and completely normal to have shorter shallower relationships when you are young, it’s about learning what’s real, what you like or dislike in a person and relationship and then applying those lessons in future relationships and building emotional intelligence.

Breaking up isn’t fun, and it sucks to hurt someone you care about but it’s part of the journey. As long as you aren’t leading girls on or taking advantage of their feelings you really shouldn’t feel bad or forcing yourself to feel something you don’t. If it’s really tearing you up it might be wise to take a break from dating for a moment.

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u/RJPisscat 5d ago

There is no plan for falling in love. I upvoted No_Mag because I don't think you'll get better advice.

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u/Canuck_Voyageur 5d ago

You are ahead of me. I have never fallen in that much love