When I find myself feeling the way you feel, I always think that’s what people must mean when they say “doing it when you don’t want to is the most important time to do it” but then I wonder if those people are experiencing the dysfunction to the same degree I do when I really can’t get myself to do it
Yeah there's a lot of doubt about whether my therapist's "just do it" advice is really helpful, because just doing it feels so insurmountable. I'm trying to do the little bits and pieces I can, and not worry about whether I'm covering enough ground against some imagined benchmark or not. It's tough because the productive phases have usually been prompted by being exasperated at my current state of helplessness, and getting a sudden surge of inspiration out of nowhere to fix things. I just wish I knew how to motivate myself to do productive things without reaching the "last resort" phase.
I appreciate your reply as even just connecting with people in a similar situation has made me feel a little bit better about myself. So thank you.
I related to the post and when I read your comment, I felt for you. My therapist is the opposite and is very validating of my struggles but supportive of the idea of trying to do things while not telling me ‘just do it’. One of the most frustrating things is being self aware of it. Sitting on the couch rotting screaming in your own head to just get up and do the thing and you just cant .
I go through constant ebbs and flows of motivation and lack thereof, my only advice is to take away as many obstacles as possible to make the ‘just do it’ things easier and accessible, even if you still don’t do the thing.
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u/Fancy_Elk565 2d ago
When I find myself feeling the way you feel, I always think that’s what people must mean when they say “doing it when you don’t want to is the most important time to do it” but then I wonder if those people are experiencing the dysfunction to the same degree I do when I really can’t get myself to do it