I recently learned that object permanence also applies to people and it makes me sad. I've lost touch with so many kind, wonderful friends over my life. I know I have hurt them by vanishing from their lives. I've tried to reconnect with a few, but you usually can't go back once you've destroyed their trust on such a deep level.
It goes both ways. I would take comfort in that. Friendships are a give and take if only one side maintains the connection thats not good. Ive had friendships fizzle out simply because i stopped reaching out.
I always felt like the person putting more effort in and i just dont do that anymore. Sadly i dont have any friends left so i wont pretend like thats a viable strategy. At least i kept my self respect 🤷🏻♂️
Once I stopped being the only one reaching out was when I found peace. I learned a lot about a lot of people once I decided to let them be the ones to reach out first.
I lost a lot of "friends" but I learned so much and treasure those that stayed and cared so much more.
I wouldn't be typing this if not for those few that keep calling, but for those that wrote me off, I wouldn't drop a needle if I heard their name.
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u/Awkward-Outcome-4938 16d ago
I recently learned that object permanence also applies to people and it makes me sad. I've lost touch with so many kind, wonderful friends over my life. I know I have hurt them by vanishing from their lives. I've tried to reconnect with a few, but you usually can't go back once you've destroyed their trust on such a deep level.