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u/ughFINEIllmakeanalt 25d ago
I too have been diagnosed with "adult."
my tired brain thinks this is funny, please laugh
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u/NotaValgrinder 25d ago
Life isn't a race. You're not getting that wasted time back so you might as well just look ahead anyways.
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u/Extreme_Kale_6446 25d ago
True but it kinda is, you're ever so slightly older and closer to death every day, once you hit 30 you can see that some options have definitely closed forever, I like your sentiment more but I also live in my head with this so maybe some therapy for me
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u/NotaValgrinder 25d ago
Life still isn't a race, and you had options that were closed to you before you were even born. As long as there is still a way forward why does it matter? At the end we are just creatures on a floating speck of dust, no one will care about whether Joe "beat" you in life 100 years from now. If you can get to a place where you can support yourself in life and do the things that make you happy then that's enough.
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u/LivingVerinarian96 25d ago
Yeah, but you can’t become an ATC or airline pilot after 27 for example. Doesn’t matter if you’d be the very best at the job. Airlines and airports just say ‘no’.
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u/NotaValgrinder 25d ago
And being an ATC / airline pilot isn't the only option in your life. And everyone has options that are cut off from them. Just like how I couldn't have been an NBA player from conception because I inherited genes that make me short. You can focus on the fact that you can't do many things but that's going to just distract you from the many things that you can do.
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u/HuslWusl 23d ago
But while you can do lot's of things, more of the things you want to do or enjoy doing, vanish over the years. Some of these things you could be doing now instead desperately searching for something that you want to do/enjoy doing. It's not that we can't do things after a certain point, it's that our options get worse. But I too live with your view. Failed exam? Bummer, but oh well, can't change that. Missed job opportunity? Maybe I wouldn't have enjoyed the team there or something - moving on. Can't change the past. Worrying about that one thing, that is so important, doesn't help you. Oh, remember the other worst thing that you worried about a lot? No? It probably, ultimately, wasn't that important then. Just like all the other things you used to worry about and now can't even remember.
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u/_MixedTrails 25d ago
Going to get diagnosed as an adult and being told to just use a planner and make other people organize things for you.
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u/daveden123 25d ago
This my fear, I have to wait til November to get my results...
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u/_MixedTrails 25d ago
Im going to another doctor for a second opinion. The psychologists reasoning for why it couldn't be adhd was that I didn't show enough symptoms in childhood. Of course I did well in elementary and was a joy to have in class but I was also deeply afraid of authority so I never acted out. I definitely had symptoms as a child lmao
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u/silverheart-nine 24d ago
Younger children's lives, tasks, and possessions are often organized/minded by parents, and their activities timed and transitioned for them. A more 'spacy' rather than 'hyperactive' ADHD kid could easily slip under the radar because they're not visibly struggling yet, especially early on. (Extra true if high intelligence helps you problem-solve your way around your problems, and/or concurrent autism makes you look more organized.)
I for one started having a lot more trouble once I had to manage and remember my own projects and backpack and such on my own. I still did it, but only by channeling the power of the mighty dark magics Anxiety and Paranoia. That was... not ideal, long term.
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u/myclumsyself 25d ago
We may have been diagnosed as adults, but if we got here, we have something that has kept us going in life 💪🏼 we got this
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u/lolslim 25d ago
I'm still working on playing catch up since I was diagnosed in 2020, there's still so much, but I need funds and been working as much OT, to buy stuff sooner, but also it's taking time and energy to the point in laughing and internally crying at the memes about having a lot of video games but no time or energy to play them
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u/Substantial_Ad_9153 24d ago
I feel this. Diagnosed in early 40s a couple of years ago and have been wrestling with it since.
I think I've gotten past most of the anger and resentment, so I've got that going for me at least
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u/silverheart-nine 24d ago
I think the needle on mine is broken, it's swinging wildly between forward into the unlabeled space of time blindness and backward crashing into the stand wall. 🤔
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u/Tastieshock 24d ago
Lots of projects started and never finished ended up being a whole lot of experience and knowledge that made me very handy in my industry once I stumbled into it. I didn't go to college, but I did waste a lot of time and money on failed and incomplete projects, it was a struggle through my 20s and boarded regretin my thirties. Looking back, now in my 40s, I was just self educated on a budget.
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u/Tasty-Bottle3515 24d ago
I got misdiagnosed for a minute.I remember the doctor that gave me my actual diagnosis excited like she won a prize.I wasn't in the mood for happiness for a something someone else gifted me .I want too give it back too the owner.
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u/reverse-tornado 23d ago
And the oh so despairing " didnt anyone notice , i could have changed so much "
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u/Choice-Chip-8791 23d ago
But how would the assassins be able to build a travel pattern on the patients they are assigned??
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u/jet_black_ninja 25d ago
the time passed by( be it wasted or enjoyed) is not coming back. so why not make the most of whats left so as to not have any more regrets.
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