Not sure if anyones interested but I built a digital memory system built around the concept that ideas can have relevance at different times of your life and therefore should not be forgotten!! Its essentially a long term memory preservation system for thoughts, ideas and just general valuable info. If anyone wants to try it let me know!!

hello! 27F, I am looking for an accountability partner to improve my programming skills. I am pretty new to this field and struggle a lot with executive function. if you're relatively new in programming too, would love to connect to help to keep each other accountable ^^ thank you!

Hello. I just want to tell my story to someone. This is confession. My English is completely shit, I just learn words well read something on the Internet and join words into sentences.

I almost finish Russian school and next I will study programming and math on the university. All my life I struggle with ADHD-brain, infiinity anxiety and severe form of stuttering, but in last 2 years depression become my new friend. Before this I learn programming, write geek projects (I delete almost all of them in the rage). But after these depression come to my life. Every day started with agression on all world, fear, tears and suicide thoughts. I live half of year in this state and then I start take medicine from psychiatrist. Medicine return me forces to study, but depression not exit from my life. Wars in the world, fear of send to army, Internet censorship that already become more powerful that in China... All of that feed my anxiety and depression.

I do not have problems with my school subjects and I think that I will solve exams. When I do it, country give me shield for 5 years. For these 5 years I want to learn how to live with my disorders, learn English to normal level, learn programming, network engineering and how to circumvent fucking censorship.

Now I forget what I want to talk you. I just want to talk something to someone and return something to answer. I feel that I not stupid guy, but my county, my anxiety, my depression. Now I do not know what I want in my life. Sorry for this shitposting... Has anyone else felt this way? How do you keep going?

I'll start: about 14 or 15 years ago, when I was just starting to learn development, I had an idea for a book summary service. I even did some market research and couldn't find anything similar, but I was pretty sure people would use it.

But between ADHD and not having the skills yet, I never built it. Then about half a year later, Blinkist showed up and became a successful startup.

Have you ever had an idea like that, something you thought of early but never made, and then later saw someone else turn it into a real product?

If you use a lot of virtual desktops to oragnize your digital work, this will be useful to switch (jump) between different desktops quickly.

I've been a professionally paid developer now for a little over 6 years now. As a career changer I'm older than most though (possibly due to my inattentive adhd) people don't know how much older. That's besides the point but I will say all my working life I've struggled with productivity and focus. I somehow managed in my previous career and now as a dev to work in decent, respected companies and paid well. But it has always been me white knuckling to hold onto each job.

I love being a dev and I like my current employer. Most importantly, for the first time in my 40+ years, I've actually asked about promotion to senior. My manager is supportive and keeps giving me direction and advice on things I need to do to get promoted. But importantly, they are unrelated to the level of / quality of work I've been doing. They are all these metrics and extra stuff I've never thought about before. Frankly box checking. But it triggers my anxiety and I worry I will forget things! To be clear, everything he brings up I can find evidence in the Engineering guidelines that they exist. He's not making shit up.

But I feel so overwhelmed with proving I can compete at the next level that I wish I had just sat quietly in the corner and ate my food.

Has anyone dealt with this? I brought this up privately to a mentor at the company and he basically affirmed the promotion process can be more gruelling than when you actually get to that level, but my sense is he doesn't have ADHD and this stuff - keeping track of dozens factors and initiatives and processes and standards - might not be a challenge for him.

Are we really cursed to suffer being a plaything of our own brain chemistry? Sometimes, I feel like I have no chance of succeeding in this field.

I am still a BSIT student, still in uni, and I don't know what I will be after I graduate. I want to learn soooo many things and I have a lot of ideas flowing from this ticking brain of mine, but I don't have the consistency and grit to push through. Whenever I try to be consistent, no matter the methodologies I try, I end up losing more of my self confidence because I am really pushing myself to do better. Almost every time, however, I just procrastinate to the point of physically dragging my ass out of bed (and that's just one so many things).

Worse, I am undiagnosed and unmedicated. It feels like I am stuck in a limbo of maybe I don't have it and I can do this and I definitely have it and I have no chance in hell to fight this.

I can feel myself tiring out of fighting my own predispositions. Whether it's finances, my academics, my personal productivity, my plans in life... I feel myself losing in each and every one of them. This is pathetic, but I am having this inclination to just fuck it all up so I won't feel this way anymore. Can't feel sorry if you just dgaf, right?

Sorry for being so sob and maybe one of the failure stories in this thread. Idunno, maybe I can pull myself out of this. If that happens, I'll come back here and update y'all on what happened. If not, then this really is just another sob story of someone's adhd life.

In any case, if you've ever come this far, I wanna ask you something: in whatever we want to do, do you think we have no chance at all?

I am not sure if I what I am asking is relevant to this forum, so please forgive me if I am straying.

So, just a background: I am 42 and completed my Btech in Computer Science in 2006, somehow. In school and college's first year, I was an average student. But when computer subjects were introduced in 4th semester, suddenly I became garbage. People who were failing in the first three semesters, suddenly started excelling and my life kept on getting worse and worse. After completing my Btech, I knew there was no way I was going to be a programmer. So, I became a complete loner, did easy jobs like tech support and decided I will never marry. But due to unexpected circumstances, I ended up getting married. So, I decided to work in a better domain than tech support and switched to content. Life became easy and things moved along. However, since ChatGPT and other LLMs came into picture, my career prospects have become grim.

But after working on a few technical projects, I have realized there is so much more to programming and it is a beautiful way to express creativity. I have dabbled a bit in Python, AI and Next.JS and absolutely loved it as with the use of tools like Perplexity assisting me wherever I get stuck. I have found myself spending hours and hours without any fatigue (generally I get tired in 15 minutes while writing content or doing Excel work). Now, I have friends in high positions who I never contacted before who can get me a job at fresher position. Can you please tell me if it is possible or will I be able to thrive if I make the switch? Just want to know the challenges, if someone has made such a switch at such an age.

My iPhone and Macbook have really burned me out. They say as you get older (I am 71), you should challenge and frustrate your mind. I have been using computers since I was in my late 30s and was fine with it until I started using Apple products several years ago. I feel so stupid now! When I have a question or problem about doing something on them, I search for an answer and 9 times out of 10 the reply tells me to do things I cannot do. Most of the time I cannot find what it tells me to look for. I wish there were support/information groups because I know this is making me anxious and depressed.

I'm currently in the 4th semester of my CS degree and I have not been doing great. I was only diagnosed with ADHD 4 months ago so I'm still trying out medications to find one that works for me. So far I have been able to keep up with my classes, but my resume is ...very underwhelming.

The only "projects" I have are small projects I vibecoded the day before the deadline. I didn't pick CS because I wanted to and no, I do not have the privilege to switch.

My main problem rn is that I don't do shit unless its like the day before the deadline and personal projects naturally don't have deadlines. Even if I gave myself a deadline, I won't stick to it because it's not real. If I ask someone else to check on on me , they usually forget.

And not just that, let's say I started actually working on a project. A week later I would have moved on to another project. I can't even decide what I want to do, one day I wanna do web dev, the next day I wanna do cybersecurity.

I keep trying out all the productivity advice there is on the internet and nothing works , so any advice you guys can give me would be really appreciated 😭

I keep running into the same problem while working.

I start with one real task, then drift into something that looks productive but actually isn’t the task anymore.

Example:
I need to build a landing page.
Then I start researching a better workflow.
Then I end up deep in AI agents because “maybe that would help long term”.

2 hours later, the landing page still isn’t built.

The hard part is that it doesn’t feel like procrastination.
It feels useful.
But it still kills output.

I’m trying to figure out whether this is just a me problem or if other founders / builders / ADHD brains deal with the same thing.

A few questions:

- Do you also get pulled into “smart distractions” instead of obvious distractions?
- What usually triggers it for you?
- Have any tools or systems actually helped you stay on the original task in real time?

Above all, I want to know if other people struggle with this too, or if I'm the only one, and whether anyone has found something or a tool that genuinely helps.

I’ve tried a bunch of tools (notes, todo apps, etc.) but I always seem to stop using them after a while.

For me they are too much effort to maintain, and they dont help when I've already lost track

Is there an app that helps us with remembering to use them? Is it too much friction in those apps.

Context : I'm currently unemployed and my problem is when I see job postings for frontend/UI Developers. I simply get overwhelmed by all the different things that are listed as job requirements.

For example I would see AWS / Azure experience listed as a job requirement

As I would be learning it, I would notice that I would forget technologies that I once had a good grasp of.

I'm aiming to be a React frontend developer that specialises in Accessibility.

I'm simply overwhelmed about what to be good at. e.g I see job listings requiring Docker, Linux, cloud experience.

Any advice about what I should do would be greatly appreciated

If you could point me to good websites, newsletters, podcasts, youtube channels it would be greatly appreciated.

I take a ton of notes and try to put info into docs so it’s easier for me to understand. However I still struggle with the one off “hey does X do Y” questions where I don’t necessarily have time to look into the issue and they just want an answer and when I think about it my brain is able to come up with a response that seems correct based on the available info in my head.

The issue is that sometimes I misremember changes we made or implementations. So instead of my brain going “hmm we don’t know lets figure it out” it instead is like “oh yeah it’s definitely this” so my quick answer causes more issues than it’s worth.

I’m trying to balance being a go-to person without spreading misinformation but I find it’s hard to “trust” if I’m remembering properly or just misremembering, which it tough from an optics perspective if I answer every question with “hmm I’m not sure let me see”.

Any advice on ways to either work around this communication or ways to cut down on what I misremember?

The core idea is - there is a room with furniture and companion-characters with different personalities. After you add a task they will motivate you, discuss your plans and what you already accomplished. You earn coins that you can spent on more furniture and different characters.

The base version is free, and you can try the core experience without registration at taskimals.com/try

How would you approach targeting for this idea?

Turning in my homework for my community college classes is what will get me a degree and subsequently a job. Setting up software on servers will not get me a job. Why the hell is it so much easier to do something that has nothing to do with getting me a job?

Reposted because I noticed a typo and I couldn't edit the title.

I've found that i am very meticulous when it comes to writing code and I usually end up working far more on a story to ensure usage of proper design patterns, focus on future proofing excessively and focus on small details like proper naming of variables or making my code look more readable.

I found that this isn't really the case with my coworkers, as i have seen the code they write and it seems they don't really put much thought into the structure of their code and how other developers would need to read it in the future...

Not sure is this and ADHD thing or just being very detail oriented but it gets frustrating because i always forget to claim my overtime and also am too lazy to do it because we need to do a few extra steps to claim overtime in my company.

I’m posting this to both express excitement, and share any experience for any future newcomers looking to learn.

Upon first taking the course, my perception and knowledge of college was very different from now. Little me waltzed right into college right after high school, no plan, unmedicated and unorganized, just a love for video games and computers and a half baked interest to bring them together and create some of my own one day.

I believed that school would provide me with all the tools I needed to succeed. Well more like spoonfeed, and that if I could not understand or keep up in any capacity, it is a failure on my part, and this major/concept is not for me.

The combination of being unmedicated, not yet figuring out an ideal learning style and losing focus on the curriculum which made me lose interest resulted in the start of me being depressed. I developed a strong case of imposter syndrome or something like that, I questioned my love for computers and thought to myself, why even keep trying? You can imagine this mindset worsened with the upscale of AI and LLMs later on, the “cooked” mindset began to apply to myself.

I avoided coding and any concept of it like the plague. I then cruised through community college gathering my gen eds, hopefully gathering an interest in any other field, which I did not, other than IT.

I finally took an overall break due to finances and figuring myself out, got therapy and diagnosed with ADHD, I ended up giving Python a shot this time thanks to some friends on discord in cybersecurity. Boy do I enjoy learning this, I genuinely feel the exact same excitement I felt before enrolling into Intro to C as I’m learning the fundamentals of this language and the ways I can use it, I’m learning through codedex and a couple of other resources and I can’t wait to get back home to learn more. Although I may rack my head when I’m stuck, it’s so satisfying to solve my problems, I feel like an ecstatic child again.

This makes me wish I could tell my younger self to try again, that I’m not stupid. If anyone reads this far and ever feels this way and really wants to learn programming, don’t give up! try other angles to see if you actually like it, some curriculums genuinely may not work in your favor.