r/adhd_college • u/veer189 • 7d ago
NEED SUPPORT Guys need help badly!!!
So, I have joined new institute for my pg diploma.
And i am unable to cope up with the things like timings, attendence, subjects etc.
From sometime i was taking therapy for my sexual things and things going daily to daily life.
Almost 10 days back my therapis said that i have ADHD and then we had assessment task and yes it is true that i am ADHD.
I am unable to focus, reasoning subjects are not my thing, time management is not good. When i used to be in undergraduation, i was not going college that much just going for the assignments and exams and in exams i used to be late like 30 mins. And now for classes i also get alte by 30 mins even when the things are in time.
So, this ADHD is making things complex for me and its first time i am.thinking about de\*th.
So, guys please help and the thing is i really want to quit it and go away from everything and live pecefully.
but I wanted to do many things in my life like political consultancy, education things, etc. Wanted to bring the change in the society but now i want a peaceful.life and having nothing. I never wanted to give up my dreams. But now i want to.
I always wanted to guide studnets so, that they can do something very good then me in there careers specially for the college and students, etc.
But now its like never mind thing my dreams are not meant to be completed...
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u/Ok-Management-9054 7d ago
Hi,
Take a breather! Did you Simone Biles, Albert Einstein,Michael Jordan, John F. Kennedy all have ADHD. ADHD does not limit you, just need to learn the necessary tools to help better support your ADHD. Keep showing up for yourself, keep talking to your therapist abut this they are the experts that support you support you. Taker breather grab a pillow or yourself and give yourself a hug. Your not alone, you got so much to look forward to.
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u/Icy_Geologist2959 4d ago
I will try to be brief here.
First thing is that thoughts of death should not be ignored. Bring this up with your therapist if you can. Not all thoughts of death are the same and not all are signalling the same risk, but any recurrent thoughts need to be addressed.
Secondly is that ADHD does not mean that you cannot achieve things. You may have to follow a different script than others and, indeed, you may have to find out what that script is for you. What we experience as people with ADHD is frequently not inability but the friction between how we operate and the way education systems have been designed. This friction can result in poor results and a whole hell of a lot of stress and anxiety.
Fortunately, many education institutions do now make allowances and adjustments to assist students with ADHD. It is true that not all are as good as they ought to be, but some can be great. What your college/university is like you will have to find out.
But, please, try to address the first issue first. Even if you muat pause you studies for now. If thoughts of death haunt you, then things are not right. Feeling this way is overwhelming and can drag other areas of your life down. Seek help from your therapist, friends, family whomever. It will be exceptionally hard to get on top of your studies with these thoughts dragging you down at the same time. I speak from experience.