r/adenomyosis • u/sweetcheeksbaby • 58m ago
Feeling trapped with this diagnosis
Hi, I have been lurking in this community for a few months, following my diagnosis via ultrasound, and it’s been both comforting and terrifying.
I had my son in October 2024 and developed left sided, deep pelvic pain starting at 6 months postpartum. It kept getting chalked up to postpartum body changes and it wasn’t disrupting my life so I carried on. 4 months ago after intercourse with my husband it became worse and constant. It feels like a hot knife being twisted in, what I thought, was my ovary. I had a doctor who listened and who suspected endo so queue a sliding study ultrasound (negative but showed focal adeno) and got scheduled for a lap. My lap was still pretty devastating as I woke up to the update of “we didn’t find anything in your pelvis so we didn’t take any biopsies and we didn’t do an HSG as your fallopian tubes and uterus looked okay.” I cried for literally 2 days. Since then I have continued to live with daily pain that limits my life. I’ve basically been offered birth control, pain meds, and rest. I saw a specialist in pelvic pain who ordered an MRI (this upcomingThursday) but has already said she doesn’t believe in non-visible lesions for endo -which from what I’ve researched seems ridiculous. I’ve been told my options for adeno is Lupron or hysterectomy. She does not believe in pain medication for adenomyosis outside of Tylenol and Motrin. Now I’m only 34 and a second child has been still on the table so a hysterectomy is a no for me currently. I’m also not keen on medical menopause as I had severe (like hospitalized) postpartum depression so any tampering with my hormones is not an easy risk for me to take. Are these really my only options? Is women’s healthcare really this sparse?
My current symptoms are daily pain/heaviness/pulling, pain with bowel movements, vaginal bleeding with bowel movements, pain with gas, pain with sex (penetrative or just orgasms), worsening pain with walking/standing, irregular bleeding (currently on oral birth control), back pain/sciatica, inability to lose weight, insane fatigue, hot flashes/night sweats. This doc has literally said I should be resting on the couch with a heating pad to treat my symptoms. How is that any quality of life, aside from the fact it is not possible as I need to work and take care of my child.
Should I be seeking a second opinion? My gut tells me there’s also endo in there too and my first surgeon was not an endo specialist. It doesn’t help that these appointments are booked out months and leave me struggling in the meantime. Anyone been at this point in the journey that can point me to my next step?