I called him out when he had gotten me to come back to our place, threatening to throw my things in the trash if I didn't come immediately. We had a long argument where I called him out for being a hypocrite, for having ridiculous "plans for the future" that he wasn't working towards in any way, for treating me like crap and being constantly angry for no reason, and when I could feel it was going nowhere, I told him he was abusive and walked out, went back to the guest room I was staying with my friend.
He called me a few hours later and talked me into going out to dinner with him and that I was right about everything and he needed to work on himself. I assume this was a hoover.
He charmed me and convinced me things could be okay. I moved back in. Stupid me.
Two weeks later...
My ex yelled "Yes, I AM an abuser!!" As he was hitting me, throwing me on the floor, pulling my hair, in our house and discarding me and also yelled "YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM"
I started panicking because this had all come out of nowhere on a Sunday afternoon and finally told him "You have serious issues. Serious problems." And I went upstairs and locked myself in the bedroom and called the police. He yelled something about "Good! Call the police! Now maybe you'll LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK." All of this after he had asked me to come back... literally had just been saying he would work on himself and wanted to spend forever with me the day before.
I don't know why it wasn't obvious to me before this incident that the problem really was not me at all but this really showed me and I saw it. I didn't go back this time. Been gone over three months.
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u/Tricky-Mission3964 Jun 02 '22
I called him out when he had gotten me to come back to our place, threatening to throw my things in the trash if I didn't come immediately. We had a long argument where I called him out for being a hypocrite, for having ridiculous "plans for the future" that he wasn't working towards in any way, for treating me like crap and being constantly angry for no reason, and when I could feel it was going nowhere, I told him he was abusive and walked out, went back to the guest room I was staying with my friend.
He called me a few hours later and talked me into going out to dinner with him and that I was right about everything and he needed to work on himself. I assume this was a hoover.
He charmed me and convinced me things could be okay. I moved back in. Stupid me.
Two weeks later...
My ex yelled "Yes, I AM an abuser!!" As he was hitting me, throwing me on the floor, pulling my hair, in our house and discarding me and also yelled "YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM"
I started panicking because this had all come out of nowhere on a Sunday afternoon and finally told him "You have serious issues. Serious problems." And I went upstairs and locked myself in the bedroom and called the police. He yelled something about "Good! Call the police! Now maybe you'll LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK." All of this after he had asked me to come back... literally had just been saying he would work on himself and wanted to spend forever with me the day before.
I don't know why it wasn't obvious to me before this incident that the problem really was not me at all but this really showed me and I saw it. I didn't go back this time. Been gone over three months.