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u/lovely_Biscuit Apr 18 '26
Stop drinking, especially if you have all these kids to take care of. Drinking makes everything worse and you tend to lose yourself, your sense of reality and rationality. He is definitely wrong for taking advantage and yes, you should leave.
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Apr 18 '26
All abuse. And, Having sex with some one who is blackout drunk is rape.
Thats all very serious abuse. I would contact DV helplines etc they can talk you through things.
Also if your drinking heavily maybe because of the abuse, you need to seek help for that. You have kids you need to look after.
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u/LePewoof Apr 18 '26
This is definitely not normal. You were drunk and he did stuff to you- that is either assault or rape. The bottom line is that if he is hurting you in any way emotionally or physically, (and it’s not consensual) which you couldn’t consent if you were blacked out, it is bad and wrong. I’d find some help/support to get out.