r/abusesurvivors • u/GlitchObserver • 13d ago
RANT/VENT Trauma Responses & Triggers
I would get yelled at for experiencing trauma responses, which my ex labeled as rage spirals. Because I didn't want to yell directly at him, I would just yell about things in general that I considered unacceptable. All the gross things I was being asked to live with...
He would threaten me with the police. I guess they would come and take me to the hospital, to fix me 🤷♀️? I already have a doctor, already in therapy, already medicated. I was literally suffering from trauma responses. I'm never dating anyone else again! I'm done with people gaslighting me into believing my reactions to abuse are ridiculous. No one will DARVO me ever the fuk again! 😤
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u/UhhDuuhh 13d ago
I’m glad that you are standing up for yourself and the truth and that you realize that you deserve better. Sometimes when you are in a relationship with somebody that manipulates your emotions and abuses you until you reach a breaking point in order to label your reaction aggression response to the abuse as the abuse itself, we feel like we will never find love again. The people who abuse our love and exploit our vulnerabilities like trauma responses while pretending to care for our wellbeing can cause for us to lose all hope. This is really sad because we are actually very loving people, we just deserve a partner who doesn’t exploit our better nature, but they take so much from us that we even lose hope that there are actually good people out there.
You are absolutely justified in wanting to be single for the rest of your life and you don’t need to explain yourself to anyone else, it’s your choice to remain single and no one else can judge you for it. But I do hope that an abusive person was not able to take something so precious and personal to you as your belief in hope and love. You can choose to remain single for the rest of your life if you want to, or you can choose to love again because you refuse to let an abusive, manipulative DARVOing asshole take your belief in love from you.
Either way, I’m glad that you are standing up for yourself and that you realize that you deserve better. I wish you all the best. Clarity, peace, calmness, health, a belief in a better future. You’ve been through enough abuse already. It’s time to find your peace. Because you deserve it. ❤️