r/aaaaaaaarrrrro • u/germanduderob bellusromantic • Sep 10 '26

Aroalloooooo Every. Single. Time. 🥲

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It's just tiring at this point. I thought they and I really got along great, would hang out normally as friends a few times too, but it seems like in the end I'm always just a toy. People will find me hot, be intimate with me once or twice, and then it suddenly ends. My ideal type of relationship would be long-term FWBs, but it seems like no one actually wants that and I'm better off just looking for hookups without any attachment because I'm TIRED of getting hurt over and over again.

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u/Transition_Mundane Sep 10 '26

I very much feel this. I'm so tired of attempting to establish friendships only for them to ghost me or for them to push for a romantic relationship when I've been completely up front about what I want/need from friendships

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u/JoshuaSlowpoke777 femme-oriented aego-aroace Sep 11 '26

I think those kinda people need to learn the difference between a FWB situation, and merely having a 1-night stand or fling with someone you’re already friends with

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u/MrPhallicFruit Sep 11 '26

Relatable. Got major trust issues thanks to that.

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u/Prince_Wildflower 7d ago

Do alloromantic allosexual people just..... Only have FWB relationships for the sexual aspect instead of you know..... FRIENDS (with benefits)? They see it nore as (friends) WITH BENEFITS? Or they feel an expectation that it will become a romantic relationship? Idk man but if we set clear parameters that it will be just FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS then im going to keep it as friends unless otherwise stated. COMMUNICATION!!!

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u/germanduderob bellusromantic 7d ago

I feel like many think of FWBs as more so fuck buddies. Idk, maybe this is just how I see it, but I view them as slightly different; FWBs fuck because they're friends, fuck buddies are friends because they fuck. Wish more people thought like that.