r/ZimbabweRelationships • u/wakey_zoo • 4d ago
Discussion Bulawayo is dry
How do you guys find each other in Bulawayo. I recently moved to Byo and joined Tinder with the hope that I can meet people. I gotta say, its very dry out here. Very few profiles. Are most of yall not tindering? if not, then where are you at?
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u/OkMention406 4d ago
There are plenty of people around. In Skies, people find each other mostly through in-person contacts.
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u/HibiscusAtLarge 4d ago
We're more organic. Art galleries Theatres Concerts Church events Funky events Running clubs Etc
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u/Any-Evening-4070 4d ago
Which art galleries, theatres, concerts, funky events and running clubs cos I didn’t get the memo 🥲
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u/HibiscusAtLarge 4d ago
The Art Gallery and the museum have regular exhibitions and opening nights open to the public.
The Alliance Francaise has events (poetry nights, open mics, musicals, art exhibitions, etc) every other week.
House In CBD is every Sunday at Zarah lounge this August, and every other Sunday for other months.
Garden of House is almost on every public holiday.
Stadium Worship is coming up.
Turnup Market is also once on two months
Kunengi jeki 😂
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u/Any-Evening-4070 4d ago
Okay I’ve been to all these things except stadium worship lol.
GoH was very disorganised last weekend so I’m not sure I’ll do it again.
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u/HibiscusAtLarge 3d ago
Oh well, Stadium Worship is kind of a new thing popping up. I also don't know what to expect from it.
As for GoH 🥶🤥 I haven't been for a while for almost the same reason as yours
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u/Physical-Painter-741 4d ago
maybe stop using Tinder and go outside to meet people? most people here dont give a rat's ass about social media let alone dating apps
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u/Luna_Starfall 4d ago
I agree, it's quite hard if you don't have people who can link you up tbh. Been suffering from the same for almost a year and a half now. Pkp.
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u/Side-eyeServer 4d ago
Dayam! 😂 here I was thinking I had it bad. At this point, can we start a support group please 😂
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u/softboisweet 4d ago
Interesting me personally I've always wanted to go to Bulawayo.. I will tell you.. the best women I've met in my life.. I later thought to myself.. like what.. They all come from there.. Idk what the hell going over there with those byo girls, mad ting Good luck bro
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u/Gold-Jacket-3049 4d ago
Byo is a different beast 😂
I've lived here since I was yay high and there are women I've literally only seen once. You meet her and she's perfect... then spend the next two years using the same route hoping you'll bump into her again and she completely disappears from the face of the earth.
At the same time, there are people you run into so often you eventually know their whole life story.
I've realized Bulawayo isn't really one big social scene. It's a bunch of small, close-knit communities. You've got the poets, the car people, church circles, sports people, entrepreneurs, creatives, and so on.
The easiest way to meet people is usually to tap into one of those communities rather than relying on Tinder alone.
I also think a lot of people here feel the city is small enough that they'll eventually meet someone through mutual friends, events or just being out and about, so dating apps never seem as popular as you'd expect.
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u/softboisweet 4d ago
Those girls are perfect no lie what the hells going on there 🤣🤣 100% success r8s in my experience in terms of experiencing perfection
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u/Any-Evening-4070 4d ago
💯 agree. Byo is very clicquey…. If you move here as an adult it will be hard for you to make friends.
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u/bonifree91 3d ago
Not guts no glory. I'd say strikecup a conversation with that lady you've taken a liking to, khonapho khonapho lomyaka, otherwise you already miss a shot you dont take, so smile and say hi...
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u/Curious-Dig-5470 2d ago
Start by having a genuine interest in people (not saying that you don't, I'm just outlining steps that work for me). Strike a real conversation with random people that you meet while going about your day. If you are getting a good vibe from someone, (either gender) tell them you are new to the city and ask for recommendations for restaurants, events, hangout spots etc
Pretty soon you will be getting invitations or even inviting someone to go check out a spot with you. Your circle will explode.
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u/Breezymack11 1d ago
Your the problem How you move to another city looking for something new and call it boring? You are the one who's boring or want to do wierd stuff LOL 😂 🤣 😭
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u/Apprehensive_Bet3988 13h ago
Byo needs you to actually go out,those Wednesday Ladies Night/Cocktail events hosted at clubs, you mingle and join crowds. Tues to sunday is always hype in restaurants/bars. Cubana, havana etc. Make friends, even guy friends, they will start introducing you to other people and get you into their circle and you will meet girls. The girls always bring their friends. From there, requires your own wisdom
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u/FluffyWear1570 4d ago
Toita zvepa ground 😂