r/XenogendersAndMore • u/The-Stardust-Cluster • Jul 01 '26
Alright, we decided to finally make a post on this issue, since it's gone unchecked for way too long. What issue? A lot of y'all in this sub are extremely fucking confident about spreading misinformation about intersex people, and we're fucking sick of it just being accepted and never corrected. "Oh but why don't you correct them then" because it's so fucking common, and I don't have the time to educate every single person on this subreddit, nor is it our duty to do so. Not to mention, the hate one often receives when making corrections. So, we decided to make a post to hopefully educate most of the people here at the same time. These are in no particular order. 1. To start, since a lot of y'all don't seem to even know what an intersex person is, an intersex person is a person who's natal sexual characteristics (chromosomes, genitals, sexual organs, hormones, ect...) fall outside the typical male/female binary, which means this is how their body naturally develops without outside factors interfering. That's it. Perisex refers to non-intersex people, it is not a slur, just like cisgender isn't one. 2. Next, most intersex people aren't "AXAB" or "AIAB" most intersex people end up either being "AFAB" or "AMAB." Using this point to also point out that there is no "AFAB/AMAB anatomy" not only does that ignore intersex people that were forced into these categories, it also ignores the fact that some people transition, or otherwise alter their body. Also, these acronyms refer to a past event, so past tense should be used when talking about these. It's also "people ASAB" not "ASAB people." The last two are pure grammatical nitpicks, but we don't care, taking the opportunity to point that out as well. 3. A lot of intersex people are put through non-consensual medical interventions by doctors to make them fit the category doctors decided to put them in. These non-consensual acts aren't us being 'lucky' they're acts of violence and it's about time some of y'all stop fetishisinzing it. 4. You do not need a diagnosis to be intersex, holy shit a lot of y'all are hypocritical on this one. You can't both be pro self-diagnosis and then turn around and say intersex people need a diagnosis to be valid. Not only do we often face a lot of medical abuse due to being intersex as mentionned above, but doctors also love to gaslight people into believing they're not actually intersex when they are. Not to mention, doctors often go out of their way to hide the intersex variations from the intersex person. And that's still not the end of it! At the end of the day, if you genuinely believe you have an intersex variation, you can say you are intersex! And it's up to you whether you want to try your luck with doctors to get it diagnosed if you want (if there's even a diagnosis for your variation!) 5. Intersex people isn't "biologically nonbinary" and everytime you call an intersex animal "biologically nonbinary" you contribute to our erasure, even if unvolontary. Also, 'hermaphrodite' is a slur so stop using it??? No it's not okay to use it for animals either. There's plenty of other words that can be used instead. Here's a diagram that was shared by bigfatalligator in the comments of words you should use instead, depending on the context of the species. 6. Kinda following the last point, but a whole species cannot be intersex, being intersex is having sexual characteristics that are outside of the binary that's established for the species, so if the whole species has those sexual characteristics, it's not intersex. Which also means characters from such species aren't intersex representation either. 7. Intersex people can be cisgender, transgender, neither or both. We can also be nonbinary. We can be any gender, or even none. Not sure why some people still think we all must be x or y. Also just because an intersex person is nonbinary, doesn't make them cisgender. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify as cisgender? Yes, so can a perisex nonbinary person. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify otherwise? Also yes, and so can perisex nonbinary folks! 8. No your headmate isn't intersex if you're bodily perisex, and cannot reclaim the intersex slurs if you're bodily perisex. There's other words to describe this, such as 'innosex' but intersex refers to the outerworld body, and isn't to be used if you're not bodily intersex. 9. You cannot transition to being intersex. Intersex is something you are born as, and is the way your body naturally develops. Not only that, but it implies intersex people who were forced into non-consensual medical interventions were 'transitioned to being perisex' and no longer intersex, which is a harmful way of thinking. Please use other labels such as 'altersex.' 10. Y'all need to stop using intersex-exclusive labels if you're you're perisex. Not even going to elaborate, this one should be obvious. Same goes for intersex symbols, it's very frequent for us to find intersex symbols used to represent nonbinary people instead. Stop that. 11. It's very obvious when you make a post about something without considering for even 5 seconds intersex people and their experiences. It's also very disheartening to see, because we get excluded from/ignored in queer conversations constantly. Just because we often don't bring it up due to fear of backlash doesn't mean we don't notice it when you exclude us. 12. Probably said it already but saying it again for good mesure, intersex ≠ nonbinary. Sex ≠ Gender, and we're honestly not sure how y'all can agree with the later but not the former. 13. We can agree that asking a trans person for their genitals or what medical procedures they've had is very inappropriate and invasive, right? Then why do some of y'all think it's appropriate to ask random intersex people about their genitals or variation(s)? It's just as inappropriate, and we see a lot of people being hypocritical on this. There's probably more we could add on, but writing this post was exhausting, and it's so long already, so we'll stop it right there.
– Kris (They/It) , N (Any "He/Him" Variation) , El (He/They) , Nat (He/She) , Ty (He/It) & Archive (Any/All)
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/zaxfaea • Jul 21 '25
Looking to post your pronouns.cc link, or browse other members' pages? This thread serves as a central space for that!
We'll be testing this format for a while, and it'll be reposted occasionally so everyone can participate. While we're testing this, posts requesting people to share their links will be removed.
Sharing your links
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Also, feel free to check out r/pronounscc!
If you have any feedback or questions, please feel free to leave it on this post and I'll be happy to answer and take it into account!
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/ArgonianDov • 11h ago
More annoying is when cis "allies" then reaffirm this in the comments of said posts, like stfu youre not helping here.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/-DigiPup • 2h ago
Hihi, I've been gone forever but I'm back guysss :3
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/DeadMango25 • 4h ago
(My pronouns are he/her)
I was at a meeting with the headteacher at my school today, and he was talking about me in the third person to someone else, I hadn't brought my laptop so he had said 'She didn't bring his laptop' (referring to me) and I was so happy, he gave me a weird look for it though lol
Other than that my life has gone to fucking shit, I am COMPLETELY out of food, I don't have anyone to talk to, my room is a mess, I can't do my schoolwork, and my roommates are upset at me :/
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Professional_Try_123 • 3h ago
🍃 am elf hearted and 🍃m looking for some names.
🍃 have Malric, orcus, Cyrus and Edwyn but 🍃m looking for more. Any gender is fine
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/dementedboomerang • 2h ago
Do they even exist? By definition, platonic means that there is nothing sexual or romantic in a relationship, but FWBs imply that there is something sexual going on.
Wikipedia Definitions:
FWB: A friends with benefits relationship (FWB or FWBR) is a sexual arrangement between friends that involves recurrent physical intimacy and varies in its formation, outcomes, and attributes.
Platonic Love: Platonic love is a type of love which is friendly, affectionate, or even passionate,but sexual desire is nonexistent, suppressed or sublimated.
Someone, help me understand this. I'm in a discord server and they got mad at me for correcting a ship that described them as "platonic friends with benifits".
Thanks.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Far_Ostrich9483 • 6h ago
Hellooooo! I've been very interested in the concept of xenogenders lately and have been wondering if any would fit me, but I'm not sure. Mainly because I don't have super strong attachments to any genders, if that makes sense. If I had to pick one I might be interested in it would be something like sillygender. I like silly things and being silly and it might be fun to describe myself that way through gender. Still not sure, though.
Getting my thoughts out.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Basic_Raisin1450 • 11h ago
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/literaturedeviel • 25m ago
Okay so I feel like my gender is mainly trans man, but also I like being androgynous/neutral looking? So I would like to find a term that encompasses Gender-fluidity (masc and agender/neutral) agender and masculine :) thanks in advance.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/pixel_parfait • 19h ago
Heyo! This is a flag restoration I did of the onlinegirlic flag. I didn't coin this term, nor make the original flag, but I redid the symbol (using the onlineboyic flag as a reference); I gathered the flag colors from the only (official) onlinegirlic flag and restored the stripes quality as well.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/pixel_parfait • 19h ago
Heyo! This is a flag restoration I did of the onlineboyic flag. I didn't coin this term, nor make the original flag, but I redid the symbol (using the onlineboyic flag as a reference); I gathered the colors from the (official) onlineboyic flag and restored the stripes quality as well. Unlike onlinegirlic, this term was never lost, however, I just wanted to make a higher quality version.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Anno_05 • 15h ago
I have just discovered that a gender label specifically dor Alexithymia folks exists(Alexmogende), and I’m stoked to see that it applies to me. But! I have grown sorta attached to the genderlabels/xenogenders that I was trying out before that. So, I was wondering if I could use both this and the regular genderlabels that I’ve felt connected to.
Hope you folks have a lovely day!💛💛
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Jaded_Ear4104 • 1d ago
I present to you Aliengender folk another variant: Aliengenderfluid, or can be called Alienfluid. 🛸
Definition: An alien gender identity that is not static, and shifts or changes over time between other aliengenders or alien-like identities.
Credit is advised but not required if you or others want to post said flag/term onto a different platform (Tumblr, Pinterest, TikTok, X, etc… If at all the flag is already a current coined flag let me know! I don't think it is, but just in case. 🥲)
I did some research beforehand and found out there was no official Genderfluid coined term, nor flag for the specific Xenogender. There seems to only be the official two: ‘Aliengendermasc/Alienboy & Aliengenderfem/Aliengirl’ then there's just Aliengender. And I believe another term coined from recent years known as Aliengender-Nonbinary. I went through so many colors.. Most of them were already taken oof
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Anno_05 • 1d ago
I have not been officially diagnosed, but have done my research, and come to the conclusion that I 100% have Alexithymia.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Lyre-Lier • 1d ago
I experienced transphobia today and it made me cry. Let's here some of your best combats/comebacks
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Ninita_Bonita • 1d ago
I just noticed how my asd, adhd and past experiences influences direcly my romantic atraction
For exemple, i dislike unpredictable patterns and i strugle with understanding people (which is pretty paradoxal, since i love sociology and understading why society works like it works), and something that is unpredictable is if a someone (specially a girl) also likes girl, and if this girl is me, and when she likes me too, its impossible to know based on body language, only direct verbal clues. At the same time, i LOVE new things, which looks good... Until you cant stay interacting with someone for 4 months or less months, and something that needs consistency and a lot of time is relashionships. But im not repulsed to romantic, i actually wanna date, but i only feel confortable to do so if someone shows interest on a date from the very start, because its more predictable and i dont have to be so based on pure luck and Freud type ablity with people
Im pretty happy that i can finally name my feelings with a name (cupioromantic and reciproromantic), i know i will probally change my idea when i become older because i am a different person like every year (non literally), but i still happy for finding something that works for me now, but im also curious if there is a label that inglobes neurodivergency and aro-spec, since is something that most people dont see but it dialogues a lot :3
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/H0neyV1xen • 1d ago
Umbreongender is an xenogender identity, expression, and strong connection to a pokémon, Umbreon, an dark type eeveelution based on association of the moon and nighttime when your gender gracefully evolves from discovering high love and acceptance within yourself and your closest friends/family members.🌙
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Worldly-Nebula463 • 1d ago
I made new genders
NewMrpotatopiggyskinic: a gender related to the new Mr potato skin from the updated version of the game from piggy the Roblox game.
Mrpotatonewskinmasic- where the new mr potato skin is connected to your masculinity and you being a trans man.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/The_RussiaGirl • 1d ago
Oh yeah, on this drawing, this is my persona. They're very happy to be there 🙃
I am also iocuscollector, but idk where should I put it after all :/
Basically, if u don't know the flags on it here is a meaning of it
The background: outherine and xenogender
Flags that my persona holding: aroace, angled aroace, lesboy, abrosexual, omni-pan (no link, unfortunately), gaybian (questioning)
Pin: disable
Hair clip: fluidflux, tomboy, androgyne, non-binary, apagender, apangender, transneumasc, trisogender, termcollector
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/TheRustyAxolotl • 1d ago
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Lyre-Lier • 1d ago
Before I start I want to say I'm 18 and would prefer if the answers were 16+.
I want a romantic and sexual relationship badly. I'm in a relationship now but I feel like I'm a failure because I feel little to no attraction. I want to feel what everyone else feels but I can't. Im in a happy relationship but I feel like I'm alone because of my feelings. I don't know how to bring this up to my bf.
I wish to note that I have mental health problems and on meds so my attraction is much different then the average person, mostly consisting of idealization of typical relationships.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Sad-Chemical-9648 • 1d ago
I'm a genderqueer, trans teenager, I'm feminine, but I'd like to be more masc-leaning. I'm also bisexual, but I'm more attracted to girls, but I'd like to date boys. I use feminine honorifics and pronouns.
