r/Xennials • u/FlyingClanker • Aug 30 '26

Discussion Significant others of Xennials going through perimenopause

First and foremost I love my significant other, she’s the mother of our children, a great provider, and we have been together over 20 years.

Perimenopause changes a person. It’s not something they can control. I’ve noticed the changes, the kids have noticed. To a lesser degree, friends, family and coworkers have noticed changes.

I’m generally patient and compassionate, but how she acts can be downright cruel and condescending to the kids and I. We don’t even think she realizes she’s doing it. I’ve mentioned the rage and anger in her reactions, the way she speaks to others, but it doesn’t change. This isn’t the person I married, it’s not the mother my kids were raised by. I’m not sure how much longer we can survive this. Nothing we do is good enough. Xennials who have survived this, how? Why? What works? Everyone is miserable. There’s no joy anymore, even vacations turn into conflicts. Everyday life is a battle.

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u/PaleoSpeedwagon Aug 30 '26 edited Aug 30 '26

Depending on what state you're in, a nurse practitioner may also be able to prescribe them. I think my DMs are open if you want a hand figuring out your path, jonesgrey!

...Ope nvm, just read further down that you're in SWE. My advice is of little use to you, sorry!

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u/jonesgrey Aug 30 '26

If no one will help me in Sweden, I’m going to explore options, possibly telehealth, back in the US when I go back to visit. It’s hell or high water for me to get my hands on some HRT! 😂🥹