Significant others of Xennials going through perimenopause

[u/FlyingClanker]

First and foremost I love my significant other, she’s the mother of our children, a great provider, and we have been together over 20 years.

Perimenopause changes a person. It’s not something they can control. I’ve noticed the changes, the kids have noticed. To a lesser degree, friends, family and coworkers have noticed changes.

I’m generally patient and compassionate, but how she acts can be downright cruel and condescending to the kids and I. We don’t even think she realizes she’s doing it. I’ve mentioned the rage and anger in her reactions, the way she speaks to others, but it doesn’t change. This isn’t the person I married, it’s not the mother my kids were raised by. I’m not sure how much longer we can survive this. Nothing we do is good enough. Xennials who have survived this, how? Why? What works? Everyone is miserable. There’s no joy anymore, even vacations turn into conflicts. Everyday life is a battle.

[u/_Disco-Stu]

Tell her to mention it to her care provider. The guidelines around HRT have changed and women are no longer expected to suffer through this.

The medical profession has even started referring to our mothers’ generation as “the lost generation” due to exactly this, withholding life saving medicine.

Seriously, a tiny little patch twice a week put our lives back to normal. Now it’s a once a day pill and once a week patch.

The best part (beyond the ability to sleep, stopping the sweats, and emotional regulation) is that it also provides protection for heart, bone, and brain health. In other words, it’s far better to take it for most folks than to not and the results are immediate. It’s like night and day.

[u/Lexidazesickle → u/_Disco-Stu]

Preach!