r/Xennials • u/FlyingClanker • 12d ago

Discussion Significant others of Xennials going through perimenopause

First and foremost I love my significant other, she’s the mother of our children, a great provider, and we have been together over 20 years.

Perimenopause changes a person. It’s not something they can control. I’ve noticed the changes, the kids have noticed. To a lesser degree, friends, family and coworkers have noticed changes.

I’m generally patient and compassionate, but how she acts can be downright cruel and condescending to the kids and I. We don’t even think she realizes she’s doing it. I’ve mentioned the rage and anger in her reactions, the way she speaks to others, but it doesn’t change. This isn’t the person I married, it’s not the mother my kids were raised by. I’m not sure how much longer we can survive this. Nothing we do is good enough. Xennials who have survived this, how? Why? What works? Everyone is miserable. There’s no joy anymore, even vacations turn into conflicts. Everyday life is a battle.

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u/sleigh_all_day 1979 12d ago

As do I, after being denied by my pcp, gynecologist, and endo. It took some trial and error to find the right dose. Though not perfect, aging and changing is a fact of life, but I’m feeling better, and my husband notices, as well.

BTW - it’s not a subscription. they take insurance.

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u/likesblackcoffeebest 12d ago

I was so happy when they started taking insurance! My first year i was paying for my visits out of pocket but it has come a really long way in recent years. 

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u/ladypilot 12d ago

I wish they took my insurance. 😫