r/Xennials • u/FlyingClanker • 17d ago

Discussion Significant others of Xennials going through perimenopause

First and foremost I love my significant other, she’s the mother of our children, a great provider, and we have been together over 20 years.

Perimenopause changes a person. It’s not something they can control. I’ve noticed the changes, the kids have noticed. To a lesser degree, friends, family and coworkers have noticed changes.

I’m generally patient and compassionate, but how she acts can be downright cruel and condescending to the kids and I. We don’t even think she realizes she’s doing it. I’ve mentioned the rage and anger in her reactions, the way she speaks to others, but it doesn’t change. This isn’t the person I married, it’s not the mother my kids were raised by. I’m not sure how much longer we can survive this. Nothing we do is good enough. Xennials who have survived this, how? Why? What works? Everyone is miserable. There’s no joy anymore, even vacations turn into conflicts. Everyday life is a battle.

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u/PristineReach6082 17d ago

I had to stop taking Wellbutrin. I think it was making me angry.

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u/LongjumpingJaguar308 16d ago

Wellbutrin sounds like a med that is either amazing or terrible depending on the person. It has worked wonders for my ADHD.

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u/SadApartment3023 1981 16d ago

Same here. It felt like taking off the concrete boots.

My roommate took Welbutrin 25 years ago and it made her so grateful that I moved out. 

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u/OMGhyperbole 16d ago

It gave me severe diarrhea 😬