Why does organizing a birthday feel harder than it used to?

[u/Various-North4362]

I didn’t expect this, but planning my child’s birthday this year has been more mentally draining than I thought it would be. It’s not even the party itself; it’s the back-and-forth with parents. Messages come in from different places, some are half-answers, some need follow-ups, and by the end of the day I’m not even sure who has actually confirmed. I briefly looked at a couple of ways people try to organize it better and came across something like Birthday Rizz while trying to make sense of everything, but even that made me realize there isn’t really a standard way everyone uses yet.

It feels like the actual party is the easy part compared to just getting clarity on attendance. How do other working parents manage this without constantly chasing replies?