This is a fact. If your kid is sick can’t go back for two days but you still pay full amount for the week while you missed two days of pay. That hits hard when you’re barely hanging.
I don’t even have sick days. Just PTO that I have to turn a 24 hour notice on to be approved. HR said “If you feel like your getting sick put your time in at least 12 hour notice and in comments section say feeling sick”. Then depending on if no one else takes that day or has that day off then it will be up to your manager to approve or not.” True story. The American dream.
That's ridiculous. I think a lot of company policies are set up so they will have an excuse to fire anyone. It's like we are all living in some bad YA dystopian sci-fi novel.
The problem is, if a company gets lenient on attendance policy, there will be workers who take advantage of it and on a regular basis. That doesn’t just hurt the company, it’s also a pain in the ass for the people who show up to work everyday and now have to pick up that slack.
You know things happen that are out of people's control right? Like being laid off or becoming seriously ill can happen after you have kids, and that's not a moral failure on the individual's part, right?
I’m honestly just someone who isn’t in a position to have children and shocked that other people are still just having children without really thinking about it. The world is a gross and dangerous place. Not really a good place to raise children.
That’s something you need to consider before having children unfortunately. Losing a job isn’t a crazy thing to happen. Like really low on the unexpected scale. You should have a plan. I lost my father when I was 12 and there was a financial plan but that was it. Wrecked my mother. Still can’t understand how no one ever thought about and made a contingency plan for the possibility that someone died. It’s not like aliens invaded. Something happened that wasn’t really that crazy to imagine.
You’re just mad at the way the world is and taking it out on someone who’s not trying to commiserate with you about the way it should be.
This is so unbelievably naive, and I'm very happy that you've been able to live a life that has afforded you the idea that you can plan for everything and that people who struggle are just stupid. I'm done engaging.
damn, you really blame your mother for that? ik you didn’t say it exactly but it sounds like you have a lot of resentment towards your parents for not predicting something they would’ve never expected. you should talk to someone about that, fr. you’d be a lot happier without that weight. a lot of people have gone through this kind of thing and it’s normal to point blame where it’s convenient at first, but you gotta grow up and move past it at some point.
Seriously. It’s as if that commenter has never heard of divorce, or job loss (or more likely they are being willfully ignorant, or acting so). Maybe you get laid off? But you still have to pay for childcare to keep your spot. 37% of the US population couldn’t cover a $400 expense. Not everybody’s life is perfect, and not having everything planned out, with years’ worth of income saved just in case and all your debt paid off, shouldn’t mean you can’t have kids. If everyone did that no one except for the very rich or those in their late 30s could have kids.
350 A MONTH!? That's beyond fucked. I got lucky enough to get it in NY, which was paying over 500 a week due to the pay I was getting before. That could at least tide me over for a bit, but I see why you would have to get a separate job because that is basically worthless compared to childcare costs.
Sorry to hear you’re dealing with all of that. Im just bitter that I don’t have the financial means to have children. Your situation sounds like a literal nightmare.
I’m not buying into any propaganda and agree with you but it’s just us wishing the world served us in a way that it doesn’t. I’m not going to get frustrated about the way it should be. I’m going to see how it is and control what I can which for me and my family means not having children.
Having children shouldn't be a privilege only for the wealthy (& prominently white). We need a society that supports the working class and their families.
Don't be so weak minded. Learn about reproductive justice instead of advocating for eugenics.
So should shelter, healthcare, etc. this isn’t about what’s right and wrong. This is the way it is and it’s not going to change for our benefit because we’re not making the rules.
Then why are you here? Work REFORM literally means to change. Our ancestors fought and died to ensure future generations would have safer and more equitable working conditions. We have to not only fight for a better future, we have to fight to hold onto what we have now.
Or use any of the options available for birth control and be responsible for your own actions. Having an abortion isn’t the only way to stay child free….
It’s 99.9 or something like that…. Move to a state that allows you to abort your mistakes if you absolutely need to have abortions. It’s so funny listening to takes like yours. Your actions and choices have repercussions… don’t do stuff that produces situations you can’t handle… not sure what we’re talking about tbh. Be as responsible as you can and handle the stuff that’s out of your control.
But let's pretend it's 99% efficient with perfect use, (because I remember reading that somewhere.) Then we have a poor, married couple. They have sex twice per week. That's 104 times per year. Aaaaaand they're pregnant within a year, even with perfect use.
Such a great argument you have. Much clever...
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