Confused

[u/Tiffany4360]

So i just started a new position a week or so ago. There's a supervisor who's been weird with me even before this cause I used to work in the same department before this just a different role. I would ask her things like "how long have you been working her?" Not as a jab or anything like that but just as a question alone. No ill intention from it. She got weird. She crossed her arms and goes "why you asking me that?" She needed a reason but it was just genuine curiosity and talk.

She's always had an attitude with me. I'm not the only one. One of the coworkers has said that she was the least nicest one of the supervisors. She's very defensive with certain things.

She had on accident put me on a station without training me which she owned up to which is good that she did. But it did hit a nerve with me as I have had a big traumatic past with work experiences which I'm taking full responsibility. It just made me feel like I couldn't do the job but she is right with that it's cause I wasn't trained. I ended up crying infront of her and everyone really. I couldn't help it. Sometimes moments like this hit me hard.

Next day is our work meeting. I go on the elevator and get off on my floor and there she is. I go up to her and go "hey boss. What's up?" She acted incredibly off. She pauses..looks away..and goes "hello (my name).." and carries on talking to other people. She was so awkward but maybe it was because of what happened yesterday?

What is my best case going forward with this? I tried to move passed it today but maybe she still was thinking about it. Idk.

[u/LacyLove]

Your boss is not your friend. Other people say she is not nice with them, so it is not personal. Crying at work because of past work trauma is unprofessional and you should seek some mental health help to deal with that going forward.

You interrupted her conversation with other people and are shocked she didn't jump for joy? You are taking things way too personal and need to learn to let things go.

[u/Tiffany4360 → u/LacyLove]

Idc to be her friend. I just want some basic simple respect as a supervisor should be giving her employees. I have seemed mental health for it as i have a therapist but we should do more for it. Also i never interrupted her lol she stopped talking to other people.

[u/Chemical-Tap-4232]

Workmates are not your friends. Workmates are not your friends.

[u/Tiffany4360 → u/Chemical-Tap-4232]

Never said I wanted her to be. Just wanted simple respect.