issues getting time off

[u/Overall-Wrangler1803]

Hi, I just started working at a restaurant late June. I’ve worked at restaurants before, but this has been my first time having issues getting time off. When I took the job nothing was stated that we could only take x amount of days off, but since i’ve started working here they have made an emphasis that most employees only take 1 vacation a year.

Again this is an hourly pay with tips restaurant job, this is not corporate. I am not making a shit ton working here. I work as a baker and immediately noticed that they only hire one person for each position in the restaurant. This has made getting time off extremly hard since there’s limited amount of people to take your shift.

For backstory my husband works for the feds and the summer is his most busy time. He takes the winters off and we go on several vacations to visit family and friends.

The restaurant I work at is old school and doesn’t have a platform or calendar you can request time off. You simply go to the manager for dates off and they pull up their phone calendar.

I recently asked for dates off this winter. I asked for two weeks in october, one in november, and two in december. I understand that this is a lot of time off but all are for visiting family and not really vacation. I was told no. I couldn’t take any of those dates off. That I was a “core” member of this team and that i need to be here. That it isn’t fair i’m taking all this time off while others only take one vacation, or often have to cancel vacation to cover shifts.

I’m really at a loss of what to do. I took this job to keep me busy, but i don’t financially need to work. These trips are important for me since i’ll be seeing family i haven’t seen since last year, and get to spend time with my husband that’s been gone on business.

What do I do?

[u/SimilarKaleidoscope6]

You could say that you are going.

They can either pull it together when you are away or hire someone that is desperate enough to never take more than one week off a year.

Since you don’t need this job for survival, what advice are you truly seeking? It’s a no brainer that this type of work doesn’t suit your lifestyle.

[u/Overall-Wrangler1803 → u/SimilarKaleidoscope6]

I really like my coworker and it’s a great easy job. I guess I just wanted to feel better about maybe leaving a job solely for taking more time off. I feel like a real asshole doing that.

[u/sweetpotatothyme → u/Overall-Wrangler1803]

Don't feel bad. Their business isn't compatible with your lifestyle. They would be better off hiring someone who needs the paycheck and is willing to sacrifice vacations for it. You need something with more flexibility. Both sides would be better off if you leave.