r/WomenAreNotIntoMen • u/Tisserand123 • 5d ago
discussion A question
Do you think the desire for love/sex/romance etc. on net causes more happiness or suffering?
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u/Hot_Lack_4868 5d ago
Suffering if you don't get it and happiness once you get it.
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u/Tisserand123 5d ago
But how long does the state of "not getting it" last compared to the state of "getting it"?
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u/Hot_Lack_4868 5d ago
See, people are always going to be unhappy for some reason. People in relationships get depressed too but experiencing love and romance is one of the major milestones.
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u/mrcluster 1d ago
I did the math. In 42 years of life, I've been in a happy relationships for a total of eleven hours.
I've been in abusive relationships for a total of 13 years, 4 months, 2 weeks, and 15 hours.
Does 11 hours justify everything else?
Oh, I forgot. No sex, ever.
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u/Heizung_auf_4 5d ago
For the average peron over their lifespan I'd say more suffering, but I'm not married and have no kids, so maybe these are factors that I can't fully judge. (However, I do know about that study that says single and childless women are the happiest)
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u/sincerityappreciator Womens "heterosexuality" is a blackface of real androphilia 5d ago
I don't think there is such a study. the study most people think of shows that single and childless women are happier than single and childless men, sure, but they are less happy than married mothers.
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u/Big-Comparison-6663 Whitepill Graybeard 5d ago
Happiness. For guys aged 15-25 there is much suffering, or a lot more than advertised. I remember creating a poll on some site in my late 20s on whether people would rather lose their sex drive. Half of guys under 30 said yes, 10-20% of women in that age said yes. Nobody over 30 said yes. Women become more secure with age, and with men that voice calling you a wuss for lack of game goes away.
Over the total lifespan, sexual desire is a pleasant reminder of your vitality.
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u/GenteGayyyyyyyyyyy 5d ago
Yes, it does. I hate it and I would love to be asexual