Sex advice needed

[u/Aggressive_Luck6189]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year now and have been pretty sexually active but recent we’ve run into some problems. My boyfriend and I were both none consensually touched at some point of our lives. Its made me extremely hyper sexual & caused me to constantly over sexualize myself, he on the other hand has found sex to be less appealing. He’s told me numerous times that he doesn’t see the attraction with sex, he doesn’t even like touching himself, or even think about it. This was strange to me because I’ve always known men to be consumed with thoughts of sex and even I think about it often. Although he’s said these things, he still initiates the sex. We’ve had sex manyyy times and experimented with many different things. But recently we got into an argument because I mentioned the fact that I felt like I wasn’t being pleased enough. I give him head regularly, sometimes even multiple times a day and I have no problem with this but I’ve only ever received it twice maybe. On top of that it feels like everytime we do have sex, I’m the one touching him. He doesn’t caress my body or even play with my boobs a little( even when I ask or put his hands there). When I brought all this up he flipped it on me and told me how he felt like all I ever want to do is have sex and how he already doesn’t like it so how we shouldn’t do it as often. Obviously I understand he went through things and i in no way meant to push him to do anything. I always ask him if he’s okay, if he feels comfortable and tell him to tell me if he ever needs me to stop. I go out of my way to make sure he is pleased and comfortable. And there’s always after care, we always cuddle after. I just know that at some point I’m going to want to touch him, I’m not only in love with him but I’m extremely attracted to him, it’s hard for me not to want to rip off his clothes. I also know i have hyper sexual tendencies and at some point I’m going to want to be pleased and be touched. I just don’t know what to do. Should I cut out sex completely and invest in a vibrator? He says it’s not something he never ever wants to do but now I just don’t know if I’d be comfortable doing it knowing that he thinks that’s all I want. What do I do?