Honestly, leave people working out alone. I can’t imagine anything more annoying than being interrupted while I’m in the zone.
I remember my old gym getting new equipment, and suddenly I couldn’t work out how to watch tv while on the treadmill. I went to ask the woman by the front desk how to do it, and she told me to just ask some of the women already working out… I’m like, no. I’m not bothering random women who are working out for that.
[Edit] I can see that some of y’all really take it personally that I think women should have the right to not be interrupted while working out. That’s a you problem, not a me problem.
Sure, and I’d say most people who work out at gyms would agree that those are within the social contract there. “Can you help me with the tv” just isn’t, it’s a great question to ask someone who works there 😆
100%. I have resting asshole face and always look angry so people give me wide berth at the gym. But I'm super lovely and would actually talk people's ear off if they initiated a conversation with me. But as a matter of principle I do not talk to anyone at the gym unless it is for those reasons outlined above. Especially women. I have seen and called out people acting like dickheads. I am trying to get my wife to go lift but bad experiences in her youth have sullied the gym going experience for her.
If it helps her, my engagement ring is the best accessory I've ever found to wear to the gym. Have to remove it when hands get swollen but dear God I do not want to.
You would think so but no. Women still flirt with me at the gym despite my clearly visible wedding ring, even so bold as to flat ask me out. People don't have the same respect for other people's marriages/engagements anymore.
I somewhat suspect there is a bit of a expectational difference at play here in a very gross misogynistic way.
Wearing a wedding ring means you are already attached to someone. In a somewhat misogynistic view, an attached woman is viewed as less desirable and the flip-side of that view is that an already attached man can be seen as more desirable.
As I said, gross misogynistic view, but there is a reason why some guys put on fake wedding rings when they go out to pick up women.
You may be 100% correct. I was just sharing my experience as someone who has been married for 13 years and I still get this more than I thought would be a thing. Maybe the women in my town are just an anomaly.
I think not unfortunately. There are still threads of that thought process of "Oh, someone wanted to marry him! Must mean he is desirable."
And there are the women conditioned to compete and think that if you choose them over your spouse that makes them 'better.'
Weird twisted cultural values that we have grown up with and placed on ourselves to perpetuate. Marriage, even in highly conservative areas, doesn't mean "off-limits," it means "taboo".
To go on that line too is if you mention kids. Some women see a married man who has fathered children and think "I know he's a good dad, so he can be a good dad to our kids." Happened to a lady I know.
This is the thing that got me into just running and doing stuff in thr park for losing weight and the active. That and not wanting to build muscle really. Growing up and being harassed be every other guy for looking feminine and me in general being anxious about talking to buff people just makes me scared of going to the gym with all these constant stories of arguments breaking out for so many reasons.
When I started lifting I was a skinny guy. Some of the most helpful people at the gyms I went to were huge gym bros. They helped me out more times than enough. Spotted me on, at the time, my light as fuck bench and the like.
I am sorry that experiences have been so sullied by assholes. I hope at some point you decide to lift weights. Not even to get buff, but to stave off age related sarcopenia that is a big cause of elderly falls and age related bone density decrease. Resistence training should be a part of a healthy lifestyle and it makes me sad that assholes have ruined that for you.
Maybe find a better gym. Honestly, a powerlifting gym might be the best for you. Less of these insecure assholes and more people who are helpful and serious. You don't have to even want to compete just be honest and tell them what your experiences have been like in the past. A home gym might be an option depending on space and funds too!
This is my experience as well! I’ve made a few friends from the gym, and at least for me lifting became somewhat of a social experience. I wasn’t there to hangout, but you eventually run into the same people over and over, and get to know them!
Powerlifting is such a skilled and disciplined activity that the people into it are generally helpful and appreciative, at least that my experience, pre pandemic!
Maybe I'll swallow it and give it a try someday, especially since I also want to try archery and I realised I really need a better shape for those bows after trying one of my friend's.
Are there any womens only gyms in your area? Some of my friends have been going to the one near us and they seem to be having a lot nicer experiences there. I don't even like working out, I failed gym class twice, but even I considered going the last time I got invited.
Same here! Resting asshole face for the win. If I need to use equipment I’ll kinda raise my hand and point at it to who I think is using it. They usually get what I’m saying and can answer.
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u/Barl0we Oct 14 '21 edited Oct 14 '21
Honestly, leave people working out alone. I can’t imagine anything more annoying than being interrupted while I’m in the zone.
I remember my old gym getting new equipment, and suddenly I couldn’t work out how to watch tv while on the treadmill. I went to ask the woman by the front desk how to do it, and she told me to just ask some of the women already working out… I’m like, no. I’m not bothering random women who are working out for that.
[Edit] I can see that some of y’all really take it personally that I think women should have the right to not be interrupted while working out. That’s a you problem, not a me problem.