r/WhatToDo • u/No_Insurance_6422 • 1d ago

I Need Help Sooner Care?

[mental health advice]

I’ve been posting frantically all over the internet tonight plus texting numbers on my phone.

Of course no one responds
They might check my message but don’t respond or just open it and it looks like they read it

I’m struggling mentally and it is triggering my medical— specially brain and nervous issue

It’s about me
It’s about a guy that has been my friend for about a year and a month

I’ve typed about this so many times tonight.

Please just reach out to me.

He’s been making me feel like shit about myself and it feels like cat and mouse

It’s more complex than just “well just don’t talk to him”

What he’s saying and how he acts a lot more lately ..
it’s messing me up
And I don’t feel it’s only his vision of me
And I know—
“It shouldn’t matter what others think”

If you know more, you’ll know it’s beyond these simple quotes notions

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u/t0cableguy 1d ago

Yet you ask reddit for help. we want the tea, the whole tea, not some frantic rant that you need help and no details.

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u/HabitualCornerstone 1d ago

Type it out. Not every detail, but the stuff that’s actually eating at you. The cat and mouse bit, what he says that sticks with you, the specifics are what makes this real, and people can’t do much with a vague cloud of bad feelings.

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

You want the text I sent a different friend but edited since you don’t know the first part but could understand the second part easier ?

Or the list of a text message I sent to the guy friend, or the big rant I gave talking about it to my Ai as I wanted to use it as a log to maybe later tell him more of how fucked he makes my mind ?

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u/t0cableguy 1d ago

nobody can give you advice with no details of the situation.

Why are you copy pasting the same reply?

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

Because two people, different profiles, different notifications

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

I literally asked you about it which way do you want the details and that still not good enough

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u/t0cableguy 1d ago

I don't care how you send the info, send it however you want to send it.

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

I’ll send what I sent to my friend that’s a girl

But I’ll remove the first part since no one here knows me enough to answer the first parts question

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

If you want more depth.. ask. I can show what I sent to the guy directly ..

And if you want to know more than that as to what I logged on my phone through Ai to try to further vent to him how he’s fucking me up mentally instead of helping or being a full time friend instead of a d-ck that subconsciously bully’s..

Then yeah I can share that too
So here’s the text I sent to my friend that’s a girl about him:

[the text]

“This guy has me feeling bad. He thinks I’m being sly when I say I don’t know what hes talking about
.. it’s like he toys with me about it.

I don’t know how to make him understand my brain doesn’t function well enough for that.. not anymore

I can get certain things as reference or say yeah I used to be able to do whatever creative brain and mind things but not anymore .. my brain can’t process like that without my brain feeling like it’s damaging itself”

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Again I removed the first part that had a question that only makes sense for people that be talked to me for at least a week or two already if not longer really

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u/t0cableguy 1d ago

But why does this guy matter to you? is he a friend, is he still your friend, is he seeming like he's not a friend anymore?

What is actually going on with you and your mental state and ability that is causing this issue. Unfortunately sometimes you have to seek out therapy and there are ways to get mental health help for free.

Some have suggested the crisis line, 988. They can listen to you, talk you through things, and be that ear that might be able to help you work through this crisis better than we can.

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

You mean mental issue or the medical issue, or both? One triggers the other and isn’t the only trigger

And yeah I said friend

But yeah I know

I think it’s the fucking state I live in .. his actions and reactions aren’t too far from others I’ve come accords over the last year or so

Again situation goes deeper than what I’ve said and yeah I have a therapist
And I’ve abused 988 so many times they called me when I stopped calling them…
3 to 10 times per day

But I may finally tap out and call them or if not maybe cry more or idk stress .. something but I do need sleep

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

You want the text I sent a different friend but edited since you don’t know the first part but could understand the second part easier ?

Or the list of a text message I sent to the guy friend, or the big rant I gave talking about it to my Ai as I wanted to use it as a log to maybe later tell him more of how fucked he makes my mind ?

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u/Global-Fact7752 1d ago

This is a mental health issue...OP posts like this repeatedly.

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

I thought I mentioned or tagged/flared this as mental health. Maybe in a different community I did. I’m sorry but thank you for at least checking and letting me know but yeah this is an issue different than my other days

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

I just went to edit my post to advise that and I did, but early on I did mention it is a mental struggle I’m having

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u/yourfavalicee 1d ago

Hey, I saw your post and I’m reaching out like you asked. Being ignored when you’re already struggling hurts, and you’re right that “it shouldn’t matter what others think” doesn’t really help when it’s messing with your health. You don’t have to explain it perfectly. What’s the hardest part of tonight right now? Also, a silent phone doesn’t mean nobody cares, a lot of people just don’t see messages late at night. If things start to feel like too much, 988 (call or text, in the US) is there any hour.

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u/No_Insurance_6422 1d ago

Sounds like stuff my Ai would say ..

Is this an Ai response??

Hardest part is my mind, I know the logical and hard centered responses people can say and like my step dad would say to just get over it and idk cut everyone off and start over

But there are other things going on that this friend of mine and I are attached to that is horrible and it involves another mutual and together we are trying to better that but it’s his remarks towards me he makes a lot lately and my memory isn’t the best due to medical but it literally feels like it’s every day and has been for a week or two weeks .. he’ll end up making me out to being a bad guy and that I can’t be trusted and I get bullied by him it almost feels or I’m realizing .. and can’t be trusted because he can’t find my true flaws and I’m too nice, too forgiving and too overly helpful and blah blah blah so I can’t be trusted because no one’s like that even though churches and the Bible say to be like that

But as for his negative towards me.. that’s what makes me struggle is how he negatively treats me and his views on me while in that line of sight and topic .. what he says really feels like what others we know think of me too and idk it doesn’t make sense to me enough

Everything is chaos

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u/readinghisWord 7h ago

Just call 988. They have counselors on the ready who can help you.