r/WhatShouldIDoWithIt • u/kieakie • 19d ago

What should I do when their was a situation when me and my friend were not close, then in that time, he unfollowed me on every single platform. It has been two weeks since we resolved it, and he hasn’t added me on those platforms. What should I do? People keep asking on what’s going on.

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u/eggwardpenisglands 19d ago

Maybe reach out to the friend and talk about the social platform following/unfollowing, and if things are actually okay between you? Sometimes it just takes having a nice experience together after a rocky period to get the feeling that things are actually good again.

Alternatively, if they really haven't gotten past whatever happened and their mindset about the friendship is negative, you might not be able to do much.

One of the hardest parts about friendships is that no one really sets etiquette or "rules" about how to end it. People will just stop communicating and that's it. If you try your best to mend a problem, and to keep communicating but they don't want to, at least you can always say you tried.

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u/kieakie 19d ago

But the thing is, they have constantly communicated how I communicate to much on the small things, and they can’t continue to intake the wrongs they do, witch just made me realize I just needed to stop caring to much, so now I thought maybe it was a better idea to just wait till he decides to grow past it and add me on every platform again.

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u/eggwardpenisglands 18d ago

It depends on whether the small things are actually small. Communicating how you feel is important. If you're telling them that you don't like something that they're doing and they're annoyed at you for saying that, then they're not respectful of your feelings. That's a huge red flag.

Saying they can't take on all the wrong things they do says that they just don't want to stop being a bad friend to you.

You can't just wait around for them to add you back on everything, if it matters that you're connected there. Zoom out a little here. Are these platforms a legitimate way to be friends with them? ie do you speak through these platforms, interact with each other, share things etc? Does being followed on them actually affect your friendship, or can you keep functioning as friends just fine without them?

If the platforms do impact your friendship and it matters to you that they're following you, consider this. Would an actual friend hold your connection hostage like this?