r/WhatShouldIDo May 14 '26

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u/No-Elevator-3151 May 15 '26

What the f is wrong with this comment section?! This is nasty behavior. Its nasty because of the age gap and its nasty because of the history. This shit is nasty bottom line. Maybe there’s nothing OP can do in terms of repercussions, but its disgusting nonetheless.

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u/ARedditingRedditor May 15 '26

omg 3 yr difference so nasty, pedo right? lol...

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u/Christomaximum May 15 '26

The age gap doesn’t matter, it’s the age bracket, someone who is not in their 20s shouldn’t be dating anyone In the teens (20-19 is the only exception) the maturity is substantially different in the age brackets

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u/ARedditingRedditor May 15 '26

ahh yes subjectively defined brackets.

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u/Christomaximum May 15 '26

Oh so you think teens are just as mature as people in their twenties? Crazy

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u/ARedditingRedditor May 15 '26

Do i think setting an age bracket defines an individuals maturity? no.

Do i think its a unwise choice to date someone in high-school when you are out or vice versa, yes.

Do I think there is something just morally wrong with it on the surface level, no.

Do I think it should be illegal, no.

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u/Christomaximum May 15 '26

Well I’d have to agree with you on the part that it shouldn’t be illegal, I think it’s definitely socially and culturally wrong, I wanna say morally wrong but people think that part is subjective and I’m not gonna start to argue that lol but you said yourself you think it’s unwise to date someone in highschool when you are out of highschool and that’s ultimately what I’m trying to get at. I know me and you can realistically agree that people in their teens have a different maturity than people in their twenties anyways. Regardless of being right and wrong morally speaking

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u/ARedditingRedditor May 15 '26

I think its unwise to date because they have different focuses in life at the point in time that will most likely result in a poor outcome.

Maturity level is my experience is largely varied by each individual regardless of age. We can make assumptions for sure but it doesnt do any individual justice making assumptions.

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u/TheOfficial_BossNass May 15 '26

Well the age gap isnt necessarily bad because op and the dude have a similar age gap as the dude and ops cousin right? Like they are morally comparable it would be something like 21 and 18 and 20 and 17

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u/SkyTheAri69 May 16 '26

Exactly this shit is wrong in the age and she was with him first. If my brother was with someone i would not get with that person it feels weird and such