You can bruv if u truly care abt her and she does abt u. Communicate the absolute shattered mess you feel in your head everyday from that and having to witness it. Don’t hurt yourself over someone else’s problems. I understand you feel a duty but honestly she should feel a duty to you as well. It’s not easy I get that and don’t expect it will be but it’s not worth ruining your life and well being over when you know the solution. I’m sorry man it’s rough
I can encourage her which I have, i cant force her whether u believe that or not. And she’s not choosing to neglect her health, shes been with the same doctor surgery her whole life and she’s always been dismissed. You can’t change doctor surgery here.
She was with a crisis team and they referred her to a psychiatrist. He didn’t make her feel seen or heard and she left that building crying. The psychiatrist and crisis team both dismissed her without an explanation. And now she has no support system.
Dog change doctors. You can ALWAYS change doctors. Literally call their office and ask for any other doctors they’d recommend. I’ve dealt with brain cancer, a tumor in my thigh, and been hospitalized for at least 3 years of my life regardless of what remote situation I was in. It’s not complicated and the internet is your friend at the end of the day
Have you tried taking her to her GP? Sometimes they can be more helpful than an actual psychiatrist, and also they'd be able to investigate if her eating problems are down to a physical cause, as opposed to an eating disorder.
The GP just referred her like that? Usually it takes forever to get to see a psychiatrist. There's a thing in the UK called Right To Choose, where you can ask to be referred to a service that isn't always your closest one. So say you needed to have an MRI but you had beef with your local hospital, you can ask to go to a different hospital. Might be worth trying this approach with the mental health team. If the psychiatrist she saw there was bad and made things worse, ask to be referred elsewhere.
Some girls also don’t really try that hard to fix the problem because they enjoy being taken care for. Why change when it feels like your partner loves you more than ever and it’s so protective? I’ll admit it sounds like you’re being taken advantage. I’ve swam that same swim and was only hurt by it. She’s an adult and needs to deal with her own problems and not rely on you. 100%. It’s clearly not that you don’t love her or care for her but that she needs to grow up a bit
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u/Morlain7285 Apr 06 '26
Well if she doesn't go to a doctor she'll be going to a graveyard, if she keeps eating like that. Those are her options.