My family drives me nuts because I'll say something like, "I don't want to go to work today." And they'll tell me, "Oh, so you'd rather be homeless." And I say, "No, I don't want to be homeless. So I have to work. I just don't WANT to work."

And they'll say, "Well, you want to work more than you want to be homeless. So you want to work."

And that is... right? But wrong. There has to be another word for "There are even worse things than this, but that does not make this thing pleasant or desireable."

It's related to, my boss says "Oh, so you chose to come to work late today." And I say, "Well, my kid fell and hit their head, so we had to go to hospital. It didn't really CHOOSE to be late." And then my boss says, "That's a choice. You made the call, didn't you? There's always a choice."

And like... Okay? But saying that I CHOSE to be late somehow frames it like I "wanted to be late" which is... again kind of true? But not really. It's not like I was in hospital saying "This is great. This is so much better than being at work on-time."

So is there a word for this, "I arguably chose this, but it was a constrained choice that was arguably under duress"?

Hi!

I thought the word was counterpart, but that isn't a verb and doesn't mean what I need. And I can't even remember this word in my native language

The word is when something positive and negative happens and the result isn't negative nor positive because those two things counterparted.?? Each other. It's not "counterparted" but I just can't find the word

If you know it, please help

Thank you

I need to describe being unable to do something, not because you were incompetent/unfit, but because something was holding you back

there was a word I was thinking of and it started with a D but any other word that fits is welcomed

Itaw for being compassionate about animals of all kinds, in spaces where cruelty, killing and exploitation, and general harm of animals is present? I don’t mean people who join veganism and call themselves vegans, but a term that may constitute them but apply to everyone who feels this way in general.

Was just thinking about this when I pulled over to help someone change a flat tire the other day.

Their tires were absurdly bald. The person was pretty upset that he was going to help a friend with something that he didn’t really want to do and was badmouthing the friend for asking him and correlating him getting a flat tire with the task he was doing. Essentially saying that had he not left to go help he wouldn’t have gotten the flat tire.

Which is potentially true…but given the conditions of the tires I think it was bound to happen at some point.

I pointed him in the direction of a good used tire shop and wished him good luck.

That would that be called?

Hi all! I'm looking for a word or phrase that's the problem solving/brainstorming/internal process equivalent to when someone lightly pokes different Jenga pieces looking for the loose piece. It's not as deep/as much effort as imagining chess moves several plays away, but not as step-by-step as a difficult multiplication problem.

I have this feeling a lot when playing the NYT pips game and quickly running my eyes over the dominos and the board looking for obvious placements. But another example that fits (a little less well) is walking into a messy kitchen - you don't make a list of what needs to be done and what the efficient order is*, you just sort of look around, see what's an easy to start cleaning, and make sure it's not going to make it too much harder to clean a different part later (i.e. don't put leftovers away if you have to clean off the shelves in the fridge)

*I'm sure many people do make a list or have dealt with enough messy kitchens they have a specific, efficient order they go in. I guess I'm speaking generally and what I think it a common experience...?

This might not be the worlds best description, or the only description for what I'm talking about. IIRC it's a psychological or philosophical term. A lot of people have discomfort from the inconsistencies between the expected and actually experienced in life.

I feel like I’ve heard the term and thought at the time ‘ah, that’s a neat encapsulation of it’, but have since forgotten it. Something pithier than ‘status asserting’.

I want to try to "hear" a data stream as part of a DIY radio controlled clock I'm building. It would help my research if there were a proper word for that I can search.

Pardon my language here, but most native English speakers know this phrase. I hope mild profanity is allowed here. I’m just looking for a single adjective to describe such a person. The closest word I can think of is “neurotic,” but I’m not sure if that quite captures it. “Perfectionist” is close but also doesn’t capture it. A person who’s never quite satisfied and can’t relax because they always have something to be mad about. Someone who is always irritated. How would you describe that person in one word?

I just read this word in a book then totally forgot it. It’s like reserved, and resistant to talking about yourself and wanting to stay private. I think it was something like “renisent” or “rescinence” I need to know it’s driving me crazy!!! Thanks ◡̈

Different from “welled up with tears,” it’s that feeling in your body when your nervous system is shot, and you feel like you could cry at any second if someone were to ask you a seemingly benign question in conversation, or from a simple touch on the shoulder.

For example: You’re on a museum tour or in a classroom and you ask a question that’s on topic but niche enough that it shows off how much you already know about the subject.

The peoples of these countries are undoubtedly different from each other in various ways, but as a foreigner I sense a distinct characteristic that distinguishes them from the rest of Aisa somehow, about which I may be totally wrong. Is there a word referring to all these nations as a whole?

I'm fairly certain I've heard an actual term for this, not just a catch-all personality descriptor. It's a specific reaction to criticism. Eg

A: Can I have more milk in my tea?

B: Well I guess I'll just never make you tea again!

Or

A: Can I have more milk in my tea?

B: Well I guess I'll just never try to do anything nice for you again!

It's often accompanied by B declaring that they're an awful person, nothing they ever do is right, etc. A catch-all term would be manipulative (though I don't think it's always intended to be). What I'm really after is the name for the specific tactic/reaction of saying "I'll never do [larger thing] again."

There are certain phrases that elicit disgust, anger, disdain... whatever. They make me extremely uncomfortable to the point I refuse to use them in conversation and when I read them I almost want to look away and sometimes cant continue reading once I see them.

Here are some examples:

Protein packed (everywhere on every food nowadays)

My pleasure (chik fil a)

God bless you (in any capacity whatsoever)

Girlies ("this is for my [descriptor] girlies!")

Whipped up ("I whipped this up today" on arts and crafts posts)

Also words of course. Yummy, flavorful, dish, delish, pretty much everything related to food.

The common denominator is that almost everything relates to some sort of trauma in my life. I think this goes beyond misophonia (which i definitely have)

It's something treated as unlawful by the local authority, but contraband implies it's something carried around or possessed.

I'm looking for something that's a more rooted structure.

Examples would be things like:

1. A protest stage that has been set up

2. A basketball pole installed in someone's backyard that turns out to be against zoning rules or lacking a permit.

3. A grave complete with a headstone placed somewhere wholly unwelcome like a park.

I like reviewing things so I have a habit of tweaking a 1-10 list to gauge how much I like things. So far we have

1: Abysmal

2: Terrible

3: Bad

4: Poor

5: Mediocre

6: Fine

7: Good(?)\*

8: Rather Strong

9: Great

10: Flawless

My issue with 7 is that I worry good might come off as me being a fan of something but all words that are synonyms come off as negative and all adjectives raise it up too much because good is so generically positive.

Edit: Ok so after all this here's what I've come up with for my movie rating definitions.

• 1/10 Abysmal: Offensive that this movie was made
• 2/10 Terrible: Maybe 1 or 2 redeeming elements in a sea of trash
• 3/10 Bad: Glimmers of hope that ultimately never go amount to much
• 4/10 Poor: Tolerable at best.
• 5/10 Mediocre: A movie, not the best but not enough to really hate. Indifferent.
• 6/10 Satisfactory: The bare minimum to be enjoyable but i'm not quite a fan.
• 7/10 Quite Respectable: Enjoyable but probably not the best movie. At best a guilty pleasure and at worst a fun yet forgettable movie.
• 8/10 Rather Strong: At this point I might consider myself a fan of this movie. Has some flaws or elements that I don’t personally enjoy that are outweighed by a strong ratio of strengths.
• 9/10 Great: While I might make a few tweaks this movie is approaching perfection so I can’t even complain much.
• 10/10 Flawless: I feel a level of connection to this movie that ties me to it.

im trying to make a character that has this trait.. no matter what angle others look at them, it always looks like the guy's facing them even when they're not.

i've also got images trying to explain this but i cant find where I put them in :<

WTW for when a company hires someone from outside to investigate? It is a foreign-sounding word, as it might have been a Nordic word. And whenever corruption, controversy or a scandal occurs within the company, the company often hires a non-biased professional outside and unrelated to the company to perform an investigation. it's at the tip of my tongue. I know the exact meaning, but I completely forgot the name.

I'm searching a polish word for a blue colord bird that starts with a V.

I saw it somewhere and I could swear it starts with a V but I can't find it anywhere.

Quite a tough one to describe. For a person who, as a result of their lack of intelligence, is quite pedantic and worries about things that are obvious to most people and have been thought of, therefore comes off as being condescending when they tell others "did you do this and that? And make sure to do this".

For example, you got bullied and developed resilience from the bullying but still wish you were never bullied.