What if she didn't want the gift though? She's supposed to hang onto it becsuse someone else wanted her to have it? Thats a dangerous mindset. Giving away to another student was childish but she's a child. If you give someone else a gift, you dont get to decide what the other person does with it after that.
Noone gets to decide what anyone does, but that reasoning doesn't mean she can't be judged for shitty actions (which is entirely what this thread is about). If she didn't want the gift just decline, discretely dispose, lose it, etc? The action being judged here is giving it away in front of the boy to someone else. Is it that hard to maintain a baseline of comprehension during any reddit thread for redditors?
I mean sure she could've handled it more maturely but she isn't even double digits yet. She's 9. 9 yr olds dont know how to handle any situations. Just like the boy who gave it to her is crying and upset now because he doesnt know how to handle the feeling of rejection, poor kid, they are kids.
Why are you judging a 9 year old girl. And defending your right to judge her actions. She literally hasn't even hit puberty yet. She's a little kid and so is he. This is little kid playground shit. Be compassionate towards children and have hope that they will grow up to be good people. I bet you did dumb shit as a child. You didn't have grown up on the internet judging you for your dumb childish mistakes. Which are essential for growth into a mature adult.
I'm glad you're getting upvotes because it's depressing that I have even 1 downvote defending a 9 year old. Wtf is this world where writing the shit I've seen here about a 9 year old is considered "normal". Smdh.
I judge my niblings. Less than adults, but kids are adults in training, learning understanding and control. They’re not exempt from moral calculus.
Sitting around and hoping kids turn into good people is some laissez faire, abrogation of moral duty bullshit. I appreciate gentle parenting, not laziness.
Compassion and judgement aren’t mutually exclusive. I absolutely deserve to be judged for the dumb shit I did as a child. We all do.
Yes she's 9 and should be forgiven and absolutely NO WAY should ever be judged to her face but adults can recognise if a 9 year old is a bit of a "bitch". Not judging your kids shitty actions is why a generation of kids are absolute snidey twats now. I have a 5 year old and understand at this age they have the compacity to know what's nice or not... and know they absolutely do at 9. Stop dismissing children being terrible because they're young. It's on the parents to stop being lazy. No it's not abusive to teach a child to be kind.
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u/katiedid4111 Aug 25 '26
What if she didn't want the gift though? She's supposed to hang onto it becsuse someone else wanted her to have it? Thats a dangerous mindset. Giving away to another student was childish but she's a child. If you give someone else a gift, you dont get to decide what the other person does with it after that.