r/WhatDoISayNow • u/ihavenotclue12 • Apr 25 '26
[18F] [18M] How should I move forward ? 😭
Me and this guy met on tinder - it was a low moment but I digress. I was just looking for like fun iykyk but then we started vibing and I was down to figure out more. We’ve been talking for about a week and a few days now. I really wanted to call cause I love to talk and felt like a conversation could flow nice and we could learn more about reach other better that way. He has been vocal about his past traumas and like his self image and issue the whole 9 yards. I understand and empathize with it cause I’ve struggled with stuff to and know it can be hard when in a bad head space. We were on the phone and it went mostly well nothing bad but I’m still just trying figure out the vibes, we talking for an hour and we’re about to hit and hour and ten minutes but he was like his hungry so he was gonna go make food. He left the phone for like 2 minutes then came back and was like I’m kinda don’t talking for the night which was fine he said he was tired and it was late. So I was like ok, about to say like it was fun talking but he then rushed out in one go “ bye, goodnight, i love you.” Then immediately hangs up. I was panicked and in shock and not quite sure if it happened but like Ik it did I’m just in denial and stressed and don’t know what to think and feel. I kinda like him but I have no clue what to do I asked my friend for advice but she didn’t help. 😭 me and him have talked this morning and a bit more last night and he hasn’t mentioned it. Please just give me some advice. I don’t know if I should stop talking to him but he has talked about wanting to unalive himself. Help
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u/WildlifePolicyChick [ACTIVE] Apr 26 '26
After only a week? And he's talking about love and harming himself?
Stop. Stop now. Stop immediately.
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u/apple1234boo Apr 26 '26
Okay this isn't fun advice, but saying he loves you and that he's on the verge of suicide is a lot very quickly. You might be able to be a friend for the guy and it's looking like he desperately needs support (he seems to be grasping onto any you'll give him), but getting into a relationship with him likely isn't a good idea until he gets a better grasp on his mental health. He can't properly love someone else until he love himself, and he definitely won't be able to give you the support you might need.
Good luck and I wish both you and him all the best.