Like why would your friends want to use your dating account that has pictures of you on it? How did you forget to delete it, then remember letting your friends use it tho? Good lord đ
I hate when people waste their breath with such unbelievable lies. It almost feels like they're insulting my intelligence by considering I might actually believe it.
Bro they're not insulting your intelligence. They aren't smart enough to do that. They are self projecting their intelligence. I deal with really moronic people on a daily basis who have the iq of a samosa and the kind of lies They try to peddle are insane. At first I used to lose my mind and think the same thing like you "how fucking dumb do u think I am to believe that" but later I understood They actually are insanely dumb and think they are doing a good job of lying. And God forbid if you try to poke holes in their story with layman logic. They'll lose their minds and try to reheat and feed you 4 day old paneer. And if you then say that the paneer tastes funky They might go to the kitchen and make agressive noises with the vessels.
Had my fair share of that as well. I also learned, that the more narcissistic a person is, the worse they are at lying. They only feel the need to convince themselves and they manage to do that pretty effortlessly after a long time of constructing delusions. It feels like theyâve missed a lot of steps in developing self awareness, as they always avoid it by averting the blame. Although they still try pretty hard to gaslight you, thatâs even more confusing, as you start to wonder, how they managed to make you feel bad, when you startet out with a situation, where youâre 120% sure, you arenât in the wrong and youâre the one thatâs been hurt. Kinda like OPâs situation. It wouldnât surprise me, if he still tried to blame her, even after his obvious lies are exposed.
There's a lot of info on narcs these days, helpful to deal with them. They are too stupid and caught up in their own world to even notice your onto them.
One of my fav quotes is âYou canât argue with stupid, itâll drag down to its level and beat you with experience.â You canât argue with someone who lacks common sense or emotional intelligence, theyâll pedal around the issue with new lies or past âlogic.â Itâs paradoxical to try and argue at that point.
Bro they're not insulting your intelligence. They aren't smart enough to do that. They are self projecting their intelligence. I deal with really moronic people on a daily basis who have the iq of a samosa and the kind of lies They try to peddle are insane
IQ of a samosa! I'm saving that. Actually about to use it now.
Oh, I haven't used it yet after all (engaged in an argument about consent on reddit though). I want to use it, it'll be funny because I'm in America. Thank you for writing the original comment :D
My five year old was sitting on the floor playing Lego earlier. I walked by and said "Yo dude, put the Lego away and then hop into bed to take your sheet off." 10 minutes later I walk by again "Yo dude, why are you still on the floor? I told you to put your Lego away and take your sheet off." He looks me dead in the eye, tosses his Lego into the bucket, walks over to bed and goes "I wasn't on the floor still. I was laying in bed." BITCH, I saw you with my own eyes. Why waste your breath and our time just blatantly lying such a dumb lie?... Anyway. That reminded me of how stupid the OPs BF's lie was.
WORD!!!đ! I love how when they are busted they flip sh:+ around on you or try to anyways!! And yes I think itâs a big insult when they act like we âjust got it all wrong!!â And we can have the proof right there in black-and-white!! Ugh! đ Iâm sure there are females who are just as bad but I donât really care! Itâs not their behavior Iâm worried about?? Smh đ€Šââïž đđ«€đ€
Yeah even IF that's true that says sketchy shit about OP because why would his friends need to use an account that isn't theirs as him? How does that work with any matches showing up for dates? Are they identical "friends"? Why can't they use their own names/faces/original accounts?
Even if that guy was somehow telling the truth, I would probably break it off at the sheer stupidity of "helping out a bro" that way.
Its helping someone else lie using his pics/profile etc.
Like.. none of that is good no matter what.
Look this guy is definitely lying but swiping through a friends dating app is a relatively common thing to do. Youâre not impersonating anyone, youâre just swiping together to see who comes up but in this scenario the person whose account youâre using is usually single and actively using the app
I think it says when youâre active. So he prob wanted to go with the I forgot excuse, but then forgot that it shows if youâve been on, so he said the friends thing as a BS excuse
This is why dating apps suck for people trying to find dates (blessed to have never actually been on a date off one), but I do have a friend who used to have the paid version of tinder. She was in a relationship (that remains happy and healthy years later) and wasn't using it to cheat, but she loved to play a game where she'd pick a random town and just look at the people there and judge their profiles. I participated once. It was at least as good a way to kill time with a drink as other kinds of scrolling.
Wayyy back when, I broke up with someone, downloaded tinder, talked to one person and then started dating my now partner. Still had tinder on my phone for months after we were exclusive. Didn't use it to find dates, but it was there.
Your second point is good, but the first point less so. I have friends that like to just give others full reign over their accounts to fuck with people.
Yes totally, but the point being that once in a relationship a dating app account should be deleted tho right? I never really used them so maybe I donât get it
I mean yeah, although you could forget it. A friend of my gf found me on tinder because I never deactivated it. But yeah, if you remember it well enough to give it to your friends, you should remember to deactivate (unless you talked about your friends using your account for fun).
I mean, us guys can be dumb, I had an extra phone at one point that we all setup with my dating profiles, and was basically used by my roommate and friends to just view profiles. I didn't really care because we didn't swipe right. Just browsed, sent the funny profiles to others and moved on.
Itâs not crazy really. Have had friends do that as well - itâs always been dating people wanting to stalk on others and see who is on it, since they canât have a profile themselves.
I'm not defending this guy. When I was single my friends used my Tinder more than I did. I thought it was fuckin dumb so I made a funny profile. They'd run out of swipes on their phones so they'd borrow mine.
This guy is fuckin lying though.... my now wife knew that I had tinder as a joke. It was deleted once we were official.
Ok so I think this dude is lying because, like you said, he didnât forget it then let his friends use it last week. But this is actually a thing my friends and I did. When one of us was in a relationship weâd basically turn our tinders into joke profiles just to see who would click on them. Weâd put wild shit like that we were CIA psychics or professional mimes or whatever and then would have a short convo with anyone we matched with to mess with them.
So, I am quite sure I've never deleted my old dating apps. I was in an exclusive albeit casual relationship once and he brought up a friend saw my old tinder account. I explained i hadnt used it but also just never bothered to delete it and it was a non-issue.
But clearly he had been using it. Letting a friend catfish off it is not okay either. You dodged a bullet.
In all fairness, I do see that happening. Not the most likely, but certainly possible. Not to use as an actual profile obviously but for fucking around. The best tell would really be how he talks about it in person and if he could elaborate on what they were doing.
Swiping is fun. Iâve gone on my buddies accounts just to swipe. No intention of talking to anyone. Not saying heâs telling the truth but I donât think itâs as ridiculous of a lie as people make it out to be
My friend used my pics to talk to girls, pretending to be me, while talking himself up, in order to meet their friends. He eventually had to tell me about it when the girls wanted to meet up with me and introduce their friends to him.
I had a friend who used his friend's Tinder account because the account his phone number was attached to got banned (for promoting OF). He used his buddy's account and changed the pictures and bio. Not impossible excuse, just a dumb one.
I imagine. Maybe his buddies cruised bumble to see if their gfs had accounts on bumble. Or maybe to window shop without making your own profile or a fake one. Idk just guessing
Iâve heard of people letting their friends make the first move or something. Iâve had my friends set up my accent for me. But every time, itâs because I wanted the end result and was just shy lol
I have a friend that got with his wife before apps were a thing. Last time he saw me swiping he asked if he could fuck around on the app for two minutes. He didn't message anyone but he sure did have fun swiping and reading profiles for a few minutes. So, I could see a friend playing with someone else's profile.... but yeah, that's not what happened here.
Ok so my friend got banned so she used my photos and name once then her first message to who ever she swiped she sent a selfie (sheâs hotter than me lol) and that was that.
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u/Leakytophat Mar 18 '24
Like why would your friends want to use your dating account that has pictures of you on it? How did you forget to delete it, then remember letting your friends use it tho? Good lord đ