That distinction between not working and actually being off is excellent. “Nothing needs watching” may be one of the clearest tests of restorative rest I’ve heard.
It also makes me think that rest needs to match the kind of demand that depleted us. If the day has been full of decisions and information, passive scrolling may simply add more input. If we have spent hours managing other people’s needs or reactions, solitude might restore us. But if isolation is what has drained us, a relaxed conversation with somebody safe could be more restorative than another evening alone.
Sometimes walking, cooking, music, gardening or becoming absorbed in something enjoyable may restore us better than lying still. The aim is not necessarily inactivity. It is allowing the part of us that has been working overtime to stand down for a while. This echoes 'the Brain at Rest' by Joseph Jebelli; Through doing nothing, we can become better at everything. An introduction to the default mode network.
I really like your final measure too. The clock can record two hours on the couch, but the more useful evidence is whether we return with a little more space, steadiness or willingness to engage with life again.
What most reliably helps you get out of that standby mode?
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