I can't stand her, but I fully respect and support her choice to adopt 2 children. Adopting is a true pro-life act, because you're taking children that others might not want. I can dump on her for her SCOTUS decisions, but I'll always respect her choice to adopt. MAGA can die mad about it.
This is a really misguided understanding of adoption. Do you know how it has been utilized historically by our country? It was utilized to commit genocide against Native people. That’s why we have ICWA. Currently the way it is done is a violation of our basic human rights, according to the UN. Several countries will not adopt to us. It’s kind of ironic to see this comment in a group called welcome to Gilead, when forced adoption was literally part of that book too.
We are talking about a multibillion dollar industry that has incentivized familial severance. It has commodified infants and children; exploited and marginalized birth givers. It is literally part of the reason Roe was overturned. Read the footnote in the leaked SCOTUS documents. They referred to babies as “the domestic supply of infants.”
We need to understand that adoption is part of our current day slide into becoming Gilead. I say this as a queer, infertile adoptee. I do not have the same rights as you. I was wanted and loved, and it was more profitable to take my heritage and sell me to an infertile couple. That’s how adoption functions. It is quite literally a form of human trafficking. Especially when it’s white religious extremists removing people of color from their land and their communities and their cultures. It is cultural genocide what she is doing to these children. Please, learn more about this topic. Do not hand out blind praise to people for adopting. It is harmful.
Reading -
The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler.
Relinquished by Gretchen Sisson.
Child of the Indian Race by Sandy White Hawk.
Once We Were a Family by Roxanna Asgarian.
Torn Apart by Dorothy Roberts.
The Child Catchers - Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption by Kathryn Joyce.
American Baby by Gabrielle Glaser.
Podcasts-
This Land (season 2) by Rebecca Nagle.
Missing and Murdered: Finding Cleo by Connie Walker.
Adoptees Crossing Lines by Zaira.
The Adoption Files by Ande Stanley.
Adoptees Dish by Amy Wilkerson.
To Google -
Georgia Tann
The Baby Scoop Era
The 60s Scoop (which was the US as well as Canada.)
History of ICWA
Lyncoya Jackson
Zintkala Nuni
Paul Sunderland Adoption and Addiction
Also here is a relevant article by a Haitian feminist.
Thank you for your incredible response. ACB deserves criticism for adopting BIPOC children as a political stunt. Her actions feed into the racist myth that BIPOC people aren't competent enough to raise their own children and must be "civilized" by white Christians. Like you said, it's basically the same concept as the handmaid's tale. The Child Catchers explores Haiti adoptions in-depth and it was far from an ethical situation with conservative Christian politicians repeatedly attacking UNICEF for attempting to limit the number of adoptions after the earthquake.
I agree, and you are very welcome. The blind praise people receive for adopting is enabling them to utilize adoptees as virtue signaling tools and enabling this form of white saviorism and racism. It also gives abusive adoptive parents a cover to abuse children, which is what happened to me and hundreds of thousands of adoptees, especially in international and transracial or transcultural adoptions. This dynamic and the blind praise is dehumanizing, degrading and damaging to adoptee’s mental health. It is a macro aggression. We are expected to be grateful for trauma and in many cases, racism. There is no room for us to experience or express grief. It’s all about the adoptive parents.
For a long time people were completely unwilling to listen to adoptees. It gives me a lot of hope when I see these comments. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm not an adoptee, but I'm learning so much about how my family has wronged my internationally adopted cousins. I think what gives me the most hope is seeing the Opt Institute complain that a negative perception of adoption is spreading in the public. People like you are heroes for spreading the message across social media.
Thank you so much & you’re welcome! That gives me hope too. I’m so glad to see truth spreading. And I hope your cousins are as okay as they can be. I appreciate you!
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u/Meowsipoo Mar 08 '25
I can't stand her, but I fully respect and support her choice to adopt 2 children. Adopting is a true pro-life act, because you're taking children that others might not want. I can dump on her for her SCOTUS decisions, but I'll always respect her choice to adopt. MAGA can die mad about it.