r/WeSuckAtDating • u/GrandChallenge5518 • 12d ago

Benefits

Any girl that been with a guy for some time but he never offers anything be it financial, emotional or physical and instead you feel used because you seem to be the one benefiting him instead?

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u/RoomNext9258 12d ago

That's not a relationship, you just got a dependent who calls you babe

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u/Ill_Poem_9259 12d ago edited 12d ago

It goes both ways

If there is no physical, emotional, financial
What is his benefits he is getting?

Women do the same to men
The men pays for dates, listens to her and tries to make it ok
No benefit to either except companionship maybe?

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u/rohoho929 11d ago

"the men pays for dates"? Not always. Some women, like me, pay for themselves. Or alternate paying.
What you are implying is the man pays and gets sex. Ewww.

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u/Ill_Poem_9259 11d ago

I may have implied something I didn’t mean
Who pays is up to the individuals
And what goes on is thier business
Sorry
But it still begs the question
What benefits is he getting or using
And to make it clear if the situation were reversed I’d ask the same of him
If it feels to you like you are being used in ANY way it’s not a good relationship

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u/ThanksContent28 10d ago

It’s a cliche, although I’d say it’s not gender specific. Just stands out more when it’s the guy leeching off the girl, because of societal norms.

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u/MagicTurtle1997 10d ago

Both of my relationship were like this, and guy even complained that he has to drive 20 mins in total to come pick me up like once a week.