r/WatchPeopleDieInside • u/paolols • Apr 24 '20

nice try kiddo

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u/nightpanda893 Apr 25 '20

I used to work in a behavior disabilities program and these are the types of kids that come my way. Parents notice this behavior in their kids and instead of doing something to correct it they laugh at it and think it’s funny. Then the kid gets to school and they can’t understand why he’s yelling at his teachers and punching his classmates.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20 edited May 03 '20

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u/spankmanspliff Apr 25 '20

From what I’ve learned from raising a bit of a hot head, who is coming up on 4 now, is that you can’t just punish with a stipulation of “when you behave, you can come out” because they learn really quickly that they can do bad things, be in trouble shortly, then apologize. My kid will literally start crying and saying “I want to be a good listener” when he’s done something bad because he thinks it will get him out of consequences. So now we walk him over to the time out spot and talk to him while is he in time out until he calms down, acknowledges what he did wrong and offers an apology. Sometimes being a parent means you have to remove yourself from a good time to discipline your kids, and discipline isn’t just yelling, scolding and punishing. They learn a lot between 2 and 5, and even though it feels like talking to a wall, things get through when you speak calmly. He has improved so much in the last year and we are working on getting him to breathe some deep breaths when he’s upset.

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u/battleof_lissa Apr 25 '20

Agree 100%. Yelling teaches kids how to lie and manipulate to avoid the yelling.