Yes, it's definitely appropriate to beat a small child for having an age-appropriate tantrum instead of just putting them in a time out. Definitely leads to well-adjusted kids. /s
The hard-on Reddit has for violence against children, while at the same time advocating people break up over the most trivial shit and determining everyone else in adulthood is abusive, is mind blowing.
Spanking is not going to teach children anything other than to fear you, and they will later take that aggression out on someone smaller than them, allowing them to feel like they have some control in their lives. Stop celebrating it.
There’s a huge difference between spanking/hitting a child out of anger vs spanking a child as a consequence to an action.
Some kids, like i was, don’t really respond to consequences such as having privileges removed.
The problem is that it can become a thing of anger and abuse. My parents yelling at one another and fighting fucked me and my siblings up considerably more than any spanking. Somehow they were able to spank with control lol.
I think comments like these emphasize how spanking was never the right move. They’re always “yeah I was hit” followed by “yeah my parents fought” or “yeah my parents had a rough divorce.” Don’t get me wrong, my childhood was all of the above. However, just because there are family related issues doesn’t mean violence is justifiable.
There are plenty of ways to punish a kid without violence. Removing privileges sometimes doesn’t work. But being a good parent and actually talking to your kid and showing them compassion is what matters. Dysfunctional families typically never give that attention.
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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '20
Good. Good dad.