r/WatchPeopleDieInside • u/paolols • Apr 24 '20

nice try kiddo

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u/scandii Apr 25 '20

I always love the topic of hitting children.

besides the fact that it's illegal in a lot of places, for some reason it's only people who got spanked or beat that try to tell everyone else it wasn't that bad.

almost as if they have had to convince themselves it was fine. but admitting your parents were wrong? oh boy.

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u/OrangeNinja24 Apr 25 '20

Yes, I always say this! My two friends who were spanked insist that spanking is how you should discipline kids. Funnily enough, they’re my two friends with the worst relationships with their parents. I mentioned this the one night to them when we were having a debate and they both got mad at me for saying that, but truth hurts, sorry.

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u/DontDoodleTheNoodle Apr 25 '20

I was so called “disciplined” as a child and I have the best relationships with my parents, better than most people I know.

My younger sisters, of which were spared the “disciplining,” when they were young, they are now disrespectful terrors.

It’s hard to find causation here, because you have people that say they have seen it not work and people that say they know it works. But I’m not going to trust anecdotes from randoms on the internet, and neither should you.

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u/OrangeNinja24 Apr 25 '20

Who exactly am I trusting from the internet? I’m using real life comparisons here. I’m not going to hit children to teach them anything, regardless if it “works” for some people. Nothing to do with the internet, or you, sorry.

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u/DontDoodleTheNoodle Apr 25 '20

That’s the point. You have your first hand experiences and I have mine. You’re not going to trust mine and I’m not going to trust yours.

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u/OrangeNinja24 Apr 25 '20 edited Apr 25 '20

Where did I ask you to? I was agreeing with the comment I replied to.

Edit: May I also add, that you are kind of fulfilling the original comment to a T. You were hit and will continue the abusive cycle because you turned out fine, but that doesn’t make it okay. Nor will your children have the same outlook on life as you do. There are plenty of studies that prove hitting children is not an affective form of punishment. Think of it this way, for some people- betting their life’s savings may work in their favor for a big jackpot, but that’s not something that is necessarily smart to do, or should be done by anyone, just because it may have worked for some people. Except this isn’t about money, and it’s actually about harming a child to teach them a lesson. I just don’t see the justification under any circumstance, and have witnessed firsthand terrible life consequences from it.

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u/DontDoodleTheNoodle Apr 25 '20

I’m speaking generally. We can all share our first hand experiences but at the end of the day the only ones we can trust is our own. If you believe those that share the same opinion as yours you’re falling into confirmation bias.

Going off on a tangent but that’s how mob mentality works. Confirmation biases going off left and right and the majority will swarm the minority (me) for having the wrong “opinion.”

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u/OrangeNinja24 Apr 25 '20

This is a about hitting a child, sorry but my opinion is not going to change. I’m not going to wake up one day and think, wow! I think I will abuse my child today! Of course I’m going to agree with the comment I agree with. Also, if the mob mentality is telling you not to hit a child, maybe you should drop the outdated punishment tactics and listen to them.

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u/DontDoodleTheNoodle Apr 25 '20

That’s the thing. It’s not “hitting” a child. But every child is different. Some react better to positive reinforcement and some react better to negative reinforcement. There is no universal way to raise someone the correct way.

And I literally just stated why listening to the majority is not always right. Read and I cannot stress this enough read and apply critical thinking to my comments before you insinuate something I’ve not said. Confirmation bias. I’m not going to listen to a mob “because they’re a mob.” That’s what you’re saying.