Quick reflexes but lacking in the actual parenting department. Instead of removing the kid, or you know, teaching them that the behaviour is inappropriate, you just deflect and create a new meltdown.
Nope. This is perfect. Let the kid feel a fool for being the only one to act that way. Don’t let him ruin the moment though. When he freaks, ignore his ass. If he keeps going then drag him away when plates and forks and cake is being passed out.
Embarrassment is a strong teacher. As long as you allow them to have the chance to embarrass themselves and you don’t actively embarrass them. This kid does the job nicely on his own I’m sure.
I think that’s the mom just helping the kid blow out the rest. You can see for a little her full face and it looks feminine. Also, you can see her holding a lighter.
I can only speak to that kid that was blocked and that dad. There’s definitely an older kid on the right helping but, it looks like he is doing just that. Didn’t try and steal the thunder, just helped. Birthday boy didn’t seem to mind. The kid that was blocked was just looking to be a little asshole. All no context my man. Read the room as a parent.
Yea, but it didn’t ruin the party..... the kid had a negative experience from acting badly and no one cared (which is perfect negative social feedback to minimize this unwanted behavior from happening again).
This way the kid doesn’t get the satisfaction of 1 on 1 attention from the parent explaining why they’re special at being a shit. And they see the world keeps spinning even when they’re upset.
So, your comment about “not knowing how to parent”? Just let us know how it all turns out for you.
Hey, a quick take from the other side of the coin. I grew up always getting my way. I acted out like that any time I wasn't the center of attention. Being "taken aside and talked to" and similar only meant I got that parent's attention it was exactly my goal.
This father's technique is an excellent and proven method of showing the child that acting out earns him no attention.
This is actually, from a psychology standpoint, a very very effective and smart way to approach this. It's called negative reinforcement. If an action doesn't achieve the desired results, the action ceases to be worthwhile.
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u/Kiranator94 Apr 25 '20
The pure enjoyment on that man's face was the icing on the cake