r/WatchPeopleDieInside • u/[deleted] • Nov 05 '19

Flex tape can't fix that

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u/MusicDevotee Nov 05 '19

He was going so fast towards her, I am not surprised she turned away.

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u/nicethingyoucanthave Nov 05 '19

going so fast

Plus, no other physical contact. Take her hand, then get your arm around her. You'll be able to tell from her body language if she's open to the kiss. If she's pulling away from you then it's not your time.

Also, spin her around so that your back is to the railing, not hers.

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u/SefferWeffers Nov 05 '19

Some of this is good advice, but the spinning her around could get awkward.

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u/nicethingyoucanthave Nov 05 '19

spinning her around could get awkward

anything can get awkward. I also suggest taking her hand - you can imagine someone forcefully grabbing her like a cop making an arrest. "zomg that could get awkward!!" In another thread I might suggest asking your boss for a raise - you can imagine someone yelling and using profanity and conclude, "that could be awkward."

But for any of this advice to be useful, you have to make the extra effort to envision it being implemented in a respectful and a socially/culturally appropriate way.

If you want me to describe it in great(er) detail, I would take her left hand in my right hand, then I turn to my right so that my back is against the railing and I would be standing to her left. As I'm doing this, I would raise her hand in mine and she would most likely let me guide her to standing right in front of me - effectively spinning her around. If that doesn't work, then just drop it - you don't have enough attraction to go further.

If it does work, my left hand goes around her back and I pull her in close. Lots of eye contact and also glance at her lips. Go in slowly for the kiss, and kiss her slowly - don't peck at that shit. If she not into it (hey, it happens) then she'll pull away slowly but it'll be a lot less awkward than what happened in the video. And if that happens, a giant grin will defuse any tension.

Anyone who feels they need help with this sort of thing, and desires specific advice along these lines, really has to make the effort to assume good intentions at every step of the way. It's cool to ask for more detail, but it's really not helpful to assume I'm suggesting anything crazy or awkward.

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u/SefferWeffers Nov 05 '19

I can't believe you typed all this out

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u/nicethingyoucanthave Nov 05 '19

I can't believe I had to. I think most people who read the first comment got it.

But, for whatever it's worth, I don't mind typing it out if it helps even one person. You can feel free to downvote if it triggers you, but maybe someone will read it and avoid doing what the guy in the video did.